Here’s a simple un-stressing method 96% of American workers report as helpful in understanding and managing their stress. 

The three steps are as follows:

1. See stress differently.

It all starts with two tiny questions that change everything: Is this important? and Do I have control over it? Most of our stress lives in the space where we skip the questions and jump straight to worry. But clarity changes that. When you pause to name what really matters and release what’s not yours to carry, everything changes. Based on your answers to the two questions, you place the stressor in the appropriate quadrant of The Un-Stressing Matrix™.

2. Sort stress into five actionable categories.

Not all stress is created equal and workplaces need to stop treating it like it is. There are five distinct types of work stress: Schedule, Suspense, Social, Sudden, and System.

• Schedule Stress is from having too much to do and not enough time.
• Suspense Stress is stress from waiting for what’s uncertain or looming and the anticipation causes stress.
• Social Stress is from tension in relationships and team dynamics.
• Sudden Stress is the stress that arrives unannounced and demands a response, such as an urgent request or a last-minute change.
• System Stress is stress from structures, processes, and culture.

Each has its own behaviors, patterns, and solutions. Naming the type of stress allows you to solve the root problem of stress, not just a symptom.

3. Solve stress without spinning.

This is where we trade overthinking for doing. The matrix makes the next step visible without overthinking or analysis paralysis.  

And then for the best part – celebrate the shift! The goal isn’t just less stress—it’s more joy. When you start using this method, you’ll free up time, space, and energy. You don’t need to earn joy or find joy. It’s been there all along—you just couldn’t see it behind the stress.