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Workplace Conflicts: Leadership Tips for a Positive Work Culture

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Workplace Conflicts: Leadership Tips for a Positive Work Culture

Online arguments no longer stay online—they leak into Slack threads, meeting rooms, and water-cooler chats, turning differing opinions into outright tension.

In a world where a single heated comment can fracture team trust, what single leadership behavior can pull workplaces back from the brink and rebuild civility?

In this HR Spotlight roundup, we asked executives, pastors, veterinarians, communication strategists, and organizational coaches one focused question: “As digital discord spills into daily work, what’s the one leadership move you swear by to keep culture respectful and productive?”

Their answers converge on a surprising truth: civility isn’t enforced with new rules or mandatory training.

It’s modeled, moment by moment, through behaviors like curiosity-driven questions, story-driven listening, managerial courage, and even protecting a morning self-care ritual.

These leaders prove that one consistent habit from the top can ripple outward, turning potential conflicts into stronger connections.

Read on!

Cathy Dolan Schweitzer
President, Health Well Done

If I had to identify the single most important leadership behavior, it would be maintaining a morning
ritual of self-care: exercise and meditation.

These combined intentional practices of mindfulness and Being grateful allows a leader to be more positive and grounded.

When leaders protect their morning routine, they’re better equipped to manage stress and respond thoughtfully than reactively throughout the day.

This is a powerful example of how personal habits directly impact professional behavior that
ripples into team culture.

The path to a civil, thriving workplace culture begins with one leader’s commitment to their morning ritual.

When we recognize that our personal wellness directly impacts our professional effectiveness, we unlock the power to transform not just ourselves, but our entire organizational ecosystem—one mindful morning at a time.

Morning Ritual Saves the Day

Dr. Meg Adams
Co-Founder, Homeplace Creative

One of the most powerful leadership behaviors to foster civility is story-driven listening.

When leaders ask thoughtful questions and create space for team members to share their perspectives, they signal that people matter.

This behavior helps to humanize the workplace, reduce polarization, and deepen mutual understanding.

Story-driven listening isn’t passive; it’s an intentional act of empathy. Story-driven listening requires leaders to slow down, withhold judgment, and reflect on what they hear.

When practiced consistently, it diffuses tension, increases psychological safety, and encourages open dialogue, even when people disagree.

In short, leaders who lead with listening cultivate cultures where people feel seen and respected, which is the foundation of civility.

Listen to Their Story First

Dr. L. Todd Thomas
Associate Academic Dean, Devos Northwood

Demonstrating humility and curiosity can be a powerful leadership behavior to support a culture of civility.

When workplace tension and conflict mirrors the polarized tone we see online, leaders who ask questions, rather than take positions or make assumptions, can immediately set a different tone.

For example, if two employees clash over a political issue that surfaced on a company’s Slack channel, a leader might step in not to shut it down, but to inquire about the thought process behind the viewpoint.

That curiosity de-escalates emotion and encourages reflection.
When the leader also shows humility, admitting to having to rethink her or his own stance at times, it models openness and self-awareness.

This approach reframes conflict as a chance to understand rather than to win, and provides a model of what civil disagreement can look like.

Humility Disarms Heated Debates

Samantha Bateman
BA, Integria Consulting

Managerial courage is the leadership behaviour I’d recommend every time.

As online discourse spills into the workplace, civility needs to be modelled—and protected. Leaders should be having regular one-on-one conversations with their team, using those moments to call in behaviour that’s misaligned with company values and open the door for reflection and growth.

But there are also times when it’s necessary to call out and nip things in the bud, right in the moment—especially when behaviour risks harming team dynamics or psychological safety.

Avoiding discomfort might feel easier in the short term, but it erodes trust and clarity over time. Culture is shaped by what leaders choose to address—and what they choose to ignore.

Courage Calls Out Toxicity Fast

R. Karl Hebenstreit
Organization Development Consultant, Performandfunction

Practicing, role modeling, and rewarding emotional intelligence in general, and empathy, specifically, is the key to fostering civility in the workplace and the world.

Once we realize that we don’t see the world the way everyone else does, and that our perspective is just a minute lens into reality, we can then become more open to the perspectives, worldviews, and ideas of others.

True empathy for others’ lived experiences and learned perspectives, and incorporating/integrating them into our own worldviews and practices, results in a more inclusive, psychologically-safe environment that fosters real understanding and honoring of others’ diverse perspectives, respect and civility, and innovation … and, fortuitously, also produces optimum business results.

Empathy Is the Ultimate Model

Dr. Misty D. Freeman
Founder, Mocha Sprout

One powerful leadership behavior that fosters civility at work is inclusive decision-making.

When leaders intentionally invite diverse voices into the decision-making process, especially early on, they signal that every perspective holds value.

This cultivates a culture where respect is not just encouraged but expected. Inclusive decision-making reduces workplace tension by addressing the root causes of disengagement.

These causes are usually invisibility, exclusion, and lack of psychological safety.

It strengthens trust and empathy among teams while modeling how to navigate disagreement with dignity.

In my work at Mocha Sprout, I’ve seen that belonging and innovation thrive when people feel seen, heard, and empowered to shape outcomes.

We have to remember that civility isn’t a byproduct but a behavior that is practiced daily.

Layoff Is Forced Margin for Clarity

Jacquelin Connelly
BFA, CPHR, Certified Organizational Coach, Coaching That Belongs

One leadership behavior that can interrupt, often even prevent, conflict in the workplace is to take a coach approach.

Leaders who lead with curiosity instead of control or correction foster more civility.

That might sound like: “What’s important about this to you?” or “What would a constructive conversation look like here?”.

Asking thoughtful, open-ended questions invites reflection over reaction. It encourages team members to pause, think, and respond with intention rather than impulse.

This approach also allows self-awareness and agency of team members to show up because they’re being invited to support finding a solution.

Over time, this approach models psychological safety, and when people feel safe enough to stay in conversation, they’re far more likely to stay kind.

Coach Questions Defuse Conflict

Beth Boyd
Director, TalentLab

Active listening is a cornerstone of workplace civility, yet it remains one of the most underdeveloped & undervalued leadership skills.


In today’s workplaces, constant notifications and competing demands often pull our attention away from colleagues, whether they’re in front of us in person or on a screen.


This distraction can unintentionally signal that their presence & input are less significant than our devices or to-do lists, and we’re missing more than half of their communication.


Elevating civility begins with a conscious commitment to be fully present in every interaction. This means silencing distractions & focusing on the whole person: their words, tone, & non-verbal cues.


When we truly listen, we demonstrate respect, foster trust, & create a culture where everyone feels seen, heard, &valued.


Prioritizing attentive, empathetic listening sets a standard for respectful interactions.


This simple shift can transform workplace dynamics, reduce misunderstandings, & elevate the overall sense of civility & collaboration.

Full Presence Beats Notifications

Jeff Bogue
Senior Pastor, Grace Church & President, Buildmomentum

Dropped: Conflict avoidance and hoping issues would resolve themselves.

Early in my pastoral leadership, I’d let team tensions simmer rather than address them directly.

Adopted: Immediate curiosity-driven conversations when I sense workplace friction.

At Grace Church with our 150+ staff across eight campuses, I now approach conflicts by asking genuine questions like “Help me understand your perspective” rather than making assumptions or taking sides.

The change was remarkable. Our staff turnover dropped significantly, and cross-campus collaboration improved dramatically.

When our Philadelphia and Los Angeles Urban Centers faced communication breakdowns last year, this approach helped us resolve issues in days rather than months.

The key insight: curiosity disarms defensiveness faster than any other leadership tool. When people feel heard before being corrected, they’re exponentially more likely to find common ground.

Sometimes the most civil thing you can do is admit you don’t have all the answers.

Curious Now, Drama Gone Tomorrow

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

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HR’s Positivity Plan: Leadership Behavior for a Better Workplace

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Correcting the Course: Measures to Improve Employee Conduct

What if the fiercest online flame wars are quietly training your team to treat disagreement like warfare?

As digital debates spill into Slack threads, stand-ups, and water-cooler chats, a single question haunts every leader: how do we stop the internet’s worst habits from colonizing our culture?

This HR Spotlight dares to dig deeper: is civility a soft skill—or the hardest edge a modern workplace can sharpen?

From modeling curiosity in the heat of tension to owning mistakes before anyone else can weaponize them, seasoned leaders reveal the one behavior that turns conflict from poison into progress.

Their answers expose a startling truth: in 2025, the companies that win won’t be the loudest or the most “right”; they’ll be the ones whose leaders refuse to fight fire with fire, and instead teach their teams how to disagree like grown-ups.

Read on!

Chris Trout
Founder & Principal, Donloninsights

When I think about civility at work, one of the first things that comes to mind, ironically, is tension.

Because one of the most powerful leadership behaviors for building a civil, healthy culture is modeling constructive curiosity in moments of disagreement.

When workplace conflict arises, especially as online debates seep into our teams, leaders who stay grounded, ask real questions, and seek to understand before reacting set a different tone. And that tone isn’t just intellectual, it’s felt.

This doesn’t mean avoiding conflict. It means navigating it with clarity and care.

Curiosity slows the impulse to escalate and opens space for people to be seen and heard.

Over time, it builds a culture where people don’t fear disagreement, they trust that it can lead somewhere better.

Civility isn’t about comfort. It’s about how we lead through discomfort together.

And the leaders who model that are building healthy cultures.

Curiosity Turns Conflict into Connection

Dr. Noah St. John
CEO & High-Performance Coach, MeetNoah

One of the most powerful leadership behaviors to foster civility is modeling emotional discipline.

In a world where online arguments spill into real-world dynamics, leaders who regulate their own tone and reactions set the standard for respectful dialogue.

At the root of most conflict is unspoken head trash, fear of being wrong, unheard, or disrespected.

When leaders communicate with clarity and curiosity instead of defensiveness, it invites teams to do the same. Culture follows behavior.

Discipline Your Tone, Shape the Culture

Katie Meyer
CEO, Moon Lab Productions

At MoonLab, we lead with intentional vulnerability.

As an agency grounded in creativity and collaboration, we’ve found that when leaders are willing to name uncertainty, own their missteps, and invite feedback, even publicly, it creates psychological safety across the team.

In an industry where pressure and perfectionism can run high, modeling this behavior normalizes honesty over ego and curiosity over control.

When leaders say, “I don’t have the answer yet” or “I may have missed something here,” it opens the door for respectful dialogue and shared problem-solving.

Civility thrives in environments where humility is not a weakness but a strength, and where empathy is embedded into how we lead, not just how we manage conflict.

Vulnerability Builds Psychological Safety

Brenda Buckman
Senior Director of Digital Web Presence, Huntress

My leadership behavior recommendation is to model active listening in all your workplace interactions.

Whether things are going well or a conflict is happening, as a leader you can actively listen and show your team that every perspective matters and that no decision is rushed or biased.

This behavior actively encourages your employees to voice their concerns out loud and share their ideas without worrying about being judged or dismissed.

It also creates space for mutual understanding between all team members and it helps your people not only in their interaction with one another but also with you as any and all disagreements are worked through constructively.

With trust and understanding and a willingness to resolve all situations together, your team will be unstoppable!

Active Listening Stops Escalation Cold

Scott Crosby
Technology Specialist, EnCompassiowa

Having worked through various tech industry challenges at EnCompass, I’ve learned that candidness with respect is the most powerful leadership behavior for workplace civility.
When our team faced difficult client situations, I found that delivering honest feedback while showing genuine encouragement prevented conflicts from escalating into personal attacks.

The key is what I call “reverse-role candidness” – instead of directly criticizing someone’s approach, I encourage them to evaluate the situation themselves.

During a recent project deadline crunch, rather than calling out a team member’s missed deliverable, I asked “What do you think went differently than planned?” This approach led to productive problem-solving instead of defensive responses.

At EnCompass, we’ve seen this translate into measurable results. When managers practice respectful candidness, our internal conflict resolution time dropped significantly, and team cohesion improved during high-pressure client implementations.

The technique works because it maintains dignity while addressing real issues.

Respectful Candor Beats Sugar-Coating

Jann Richardson
Creative Director & Founder, The Lamp Goods

As the creative director and founder of The Lamp Goods, I’ve had over ten years at the head of a close-knit team of artisanal employees where communication, teamwork, and imagination come naturally.

Operating the business side and hands-on design side of a lighting firm has taught me the importance of maintaining a positive, respectful work environment — especially when egos and opinions conflict.

One of my greatest leadership habits is to model calm, clear communication — especially in tough times.

Whether a conflict is constructive or destructive depends on how the leader manages it and responds.

I make sure to stop, listen carefully, and then respond with empathy.

It makes a space where members feel comfortable bringing forward ideas and issues without risking dismissal.
Civility is not being tactically polite — it’s creating trust and creating space for honest and respectful conversation.

Calm Communication Defuses Drama

Anne Marie White
Owner, Dream Big Counseling & Wellness, Dream Big Counseling and Wellness

Active Listening with Emotional Validation is the most powerful leadership behavior I’ve seen transform workplace dynamics.

In my experience running Dream Big Counseling & Wellness and working in various therapeutic settings, this single skill prevents 70% of conflicts from escalating.

When team members feel genuinely heard—not just acknowledged—they’re less likely to become defensive or reactive.

I’ve watched managers completely shift their workplace culture by simply pausing to say “I can see this situation is really frustrating for you” before diving into solutions.

The key is validating the emotion without necessarily agreeing with the position.

In family therapy sessions, I’ve seen this technique de-escalate heated arguments within minutes. The same principle works in boardrooms—people need to feel their concerns matter before they can engage in productive dialogue.

This approach costs nothing but creates psychological safety that drives both civility and performance.

When employees know their feelings will be acknowledged rather than dismissed, they’re more willing to bring up issues early instead of letting them fester into bigger conflicts.

Validate Feelings, Unlock Solutions

Beth Southorn
Executive Director, Lifestepsusa

When I started leading LifeSTEPS through serving 36,000 homes across California, I found that transparent acknowledgment of mistakes creates the strongest foundation for workplace civility.

Instead of deflecting when our programs hit snags, I began openly discussing what went wrong in team meetings.

During our expansion phase, one of our housing retention initiatives initially struggled in certain communities.

Rather than pointing fingers, I stood up in our all-hands meeting and said “I approved this approach too quickly without enough community input.” This immediately shifted our team culture from blame to problem-solving.

The results were measurable – we achieved that 98.3% housing retention rate in 2020 partly because staff felt safe raising concerns early.

When leaders model vulnerability by owning their failures first, it gives everyone permission to speak up about problems before they escalate into conflicts.

In nonprofit work with vulnerable populations, mistakes can have serious consequences.

But I’ve learned that teams perform better when they know their leader won’t throw them under the bus when things go sideways.

Own Mistakes First, Win Trust

Ann Krajewski
Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Founder, Everbe Therapy

Dropped: Rushing to solve every workplace conflict the moment it surfaces. I used to jump in immediately when team tensions arose, trying to fix everything before people could process their emotions.

Adopted: Modeling curiosity about underlying feelings during conflicts.
Instead of offering quick solutions, I started asking questions like “What might be underneath this frustration?” and “What boundary feels crossed here?” This mirrors the boundary-setting work I do with my therapy clients.

The shift was remarkable.

When I began treating workplace anger as information rather than a problem to eliminate, my team started communicating more authentically.

They learned to express concerns without blame, which reduced the cycle of defensiveness that typically escalates conflicts.

The same principle I use with perfectionist clients applies to leadership—honoring feelings rather than rushing past them creates the psychological safety where real solutions emerge.

Teams need space to breathe and reflect before they can align with their values.

Curious Questions Heal Hidden Hurts

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

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Fostering Civility: The HR Behavior That Builds Positive Work Culture

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Fostering Civility: The HR Behavior That Builds Positive Work Culture

As online debates spill into workplaces, fostering civility is key to positive cultures amid rising tensions. 

This HR Spotlight article compiles one leadership behavior from business leaders and HR professionals to promote respect. 

Experts advocate self-regulation to manage reactions, curiosity through phrases like “Help me understand” to defuse defensiveness, and owning mistakes publicly to model accountability. 

They emphasize empathy, active listening, and human vulnerability to bridge divides, creating psychological safety. 

By prioritizing presence over ego, these behaviors shift from confrontation to collaboration, rebuilding trust and engagement in polarized environments.

Read on!

 Naomi Shammas-King
Lead at Global Employment Platform, Oyster

Effective leaders let themselves be seen as multifaceted individuals rather than positions of authority.

Respect, and therefore real civility, come from feeling a genuine sense of connection to the individual you’re working for – transcending traditional hierarchical boundaries.

People talk a lot about authenticity, but the word has become overused; authentic can mean so many things in a corporate setting now.

The behavior that truly matters is to be human: someone with flaws, interests, and depth.

We all have our unique traits, and by showing that it’s okay to bring yourself to work, the leader encourages the introduction of who an employee is – beyond the 9-5 – across the company.

As a result, people treat each other with deeper respect, because they know someone not by their title or role, but as the person they are.

Civility in the workplace means listening, respecting views, and being open-minded regardless of who you’re interacting with.

This deeper connection creates stronger professional relationships – and I’ve seen that produce great work time and time again.

Authentic Leadership Drives Deeper Respect

Kevin Judge
CEO, iNOBLl

Leading with curiosity is a foundational skill that all leaders (all people actually) should work on strengthening.

When something happens at work our mind kicks into high gear trying to find a reason for it. Without all the data and facts, which we often don’t have, our minds turn to creative storytelling. Unfortunately, our brains are masters at creating fictional horror stories.

For example, if someone’s late for work 3 times, that might be interpreted as lazy or disrespecting the team. Alternatively, the facts might tell us that the person is dealing with extraordinary circumstances at home and showing up late is almost heroic… most others wouldn’t show up at all in the same scenario.

Before letting our brains jump to conclusions, get curious. Ask questions. Assume people have positive intent. Ask them what’s going on.

Most people wake up in the morning wanting to do good.

Curiosity Counters Negative Assumptions

Richard Mews
CEO, Sell With Richard

Engage in active listening and acknowledge each person in every interaction. Listen to your team with genuine attention.

Ask clear questions and recognize their input before you reply. Put away devices when talking. Keep eye contact and repeat what you hear for proper understanding. Follow up on their issues.

Even if you can not solve problems or agree with suggestions right away, it’s important to respond.

This behavior builds psychological safety. Employees feel safe sharing ideas and feedback. They do not fear dismissal.

Respecting and caring for others shows your team that good communication matters. Employees show this behavior with their colleagues.

This builds mutual respect as a key principle. The acknowledgment itself demonstrates that you value their voice and perspective.

This leadership practice changes workplace dynamics. It shows that everyone’s input matters. This builds respect, which spreads across your organization. As a result, it drives positive cultural change.

Active Listening Fosters Psychological Safety

Samantha Reynolds
Account Manager, Helpside

Taking ownership of mistakes publicly and personally in 1-1 connections.

When a leader consistently demonstrates the integrity and humility necessary to take account for their actions, their team sees someone listening, someone taking another perspective, or simply owning up to a mistake or miscommunication.

Then, they see the conversation and effort shift back to the work. How do we come together as a team to accomplish our goal?

It also shows in real time how to step out of ego in the workplace, step out of the attachment that can happen with workplace conflict, attachment to being right, or to an outcome.

It can be very challenging to admit to a mistake, much less take responsibility, fix the issue, and ensure it never happens again.

When a team sees its leaders take ownership of their actions, it creates a culture of personal responsibility and accountability.

Own Mistakes to Model Accountability

Sara Gilbert
Strategist Business Development, Business Strategist & Keynote Speaker

One powerful leadership behaviour to foster civility is modelling curiosity through language, more precisely by asking “Help me understand…”

In moments of tension or disagreement, this simple phrase defuses defensiveness, creates psychological safety, and demonstrates a willingness to listen rather than react.

It shifts the conversation from confrontation to collaboration. When leaders use this phrase, it sets a tone where exploration replaces assumption and clarity becomes more valued than being right.

Civility isn’t just about being kind, it’s about creating space for others to be heard, seen, and recognised, even in disagreement.

Curious Questions Promote Collaboration

Martha A.Burich
Speaker & Author, Yes You Can Raise Happy Responsible Children

I’ve taught child psychology in college classrooms and special education in high school. Now I teach parenting to people who want more peace in their homes. And here’s what I know for sure: the same leadership skills that help kids thrive work wonders in the workplace.

When emotions run high, real leaders don’t power up and bark orders. They stay calm. They listen. They respond with clarity and respect, even when they disagree. That’s what we teach our kids, right? Don’t scream. Don’t be ashamed. Speak up, but do it kindly.

I once worked with a team where tension felt like walking on eggshells. What changed it? One person, a new manager. This leader refused to engage in blame. She stayed grounded and modeled emotional maturity.

People followed her lead, because they respected and admired her poise and emotional maturity.

Whether you’re raising children or leading a team, remember: people take their emotional cues from whoever’s in charge. Be the one who stays steady. Be a good example.

Stay Calm to Set Emotional Tone

Genevieve Piturro
Founder, Genevieve Piturro

Be open about why this situation matters to all involved. When your team is reminded of the heart-felt vision fueling the impact you all want to make, they will connect emotionally rather than commit reluctantly.

Listen between the lines. Often, what’s not said is more important to the team’s camaraderie. Look past the words and respond with empathy; these are your team members, not just staff members.

Don’t try to persuade anyone to drop their idea of a resolution, invite a new solution. People are far more likely to follow when they feel part of something that matters. When you make it about us, their hearts and actions follow.

Invite Solutions for Shared Commitment

Evan White
Chief Marketing Officer, ERIN

When online tension seeps into the workplace, the most impactful leadership behavior is modeling curiosity over combativeness. Instead of reacting to a disagreement with defensiveness, leaders should lean into open dialogue.

Ask questions. Invite perspectives. And most of all create space for understanding before looking for a place of resolution.

Civility isn’t just about avoiding conflict, it’s about creating a shared commitment to each other’s success.

Curiosity Drives Understanding

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

Do you wish to contribute to the next HR Spotlight article? Or is there an insight or idea you’d like to share with readers across the globe?

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Civility in Action: An HR Leader’s Key to a Positive Workplace

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Civility in Action: An HR Leader’s Key to a Positive Workplace

In an era where online debates often spill into workplace tensions, fostering a culture of civility is essential for team cohesion. 

This HR Spotlight article compiles insights from business leaders and HR professionals on one leadership behavior to promote a positive work culture driven by civility. 

Experts emphasize modeling respectful communication, such as empathetic listening, setting clear ground rules, and using humor to defuse conflicts. They advocate creating structured forums for open dialogue and prioritizing face-to-face or video interactions to maintain trust. 

These behaviors ensure disagreements remain productive, reducing resentment and enhancing collaboration, ultimately building a workplace where employees feel valued and respected despite external or internal conflicts. 

Read on!

Amy P. Castro
President, Amy Castro

Set clear ground rules for communication and model them consistently. Too often, leaders assume everyone shares the same definition of “respect,” but that is rarely true.

Take time to clarify what respectful disagreement looks like for your team: no interruptions, ask clarifying questions before responding, address issues and behavior rather than attacking people, and focus on solutions instead of blame.

As a communication expert with more than 20 years of experience, I have seen that leaders who clearly define, model, and consistently reinforce these expectations create genuine psychological safety for their team. This approach ensures everyone knows what is expected and helps them feel confident sharing ideas without fear of personal attacks or escalating drama.

It keeps discussions productive, collaborative, and focused on problem-solving, all of which support a positive and truly respectful workplace culture.

Establish and Enforce Clear Ground Rules

Alanna Fincke
Executive Director Workforce Development, meQuilibrium

One of the most critical leadership behaviors that fosters a positive work culture, one driven by civility, is promoting open and respectful communication.

It may sound pat or obvious, but hear me out on why and how. It plays a powerful role—as do the leaders who practice it—in shifting team and organizational culture, even in the face of workplace conflict and the near constant stress from uncertainty and ongoing change.

Ultimately, open and respectful communication creates a culture of psychological safety at the foundation, and that’s what we need to fight the overwhelming tides of pessimism, uncertainty, and disengagement we’re seeing in the workplace.

Here are some specific suggestions on how to implement open and respectful communication:

Model It: As a leader, it starts with you. Model respectful and civil communication in your interactions. Avoid using inflammatory language, personal attacks, or dismissive behavior, even when (and especially when) disagreements arise.

Encourage Open Dialogue and a Range of Viewpoints: Create an environment where employees feel safe to express their views and opinions without fear of repercussions. Actively listen to different perspectives and acknowledge valid points, even if you disagree.

Provide Training: Effective and respectful communication is a practice and doesn’t always come naturally. However, it can absolutely be learned! Offer training or workshops on effective communication, conflict resolution, and fostering a respectful workplace culture. This is a critical piece in employees developing the skills to engage in constructive dialogue and handle disagreements.

Address Issues Promptly: When conflicts or uncivil behavior arise, address them promptly. It’s tempting to avoid it in the short term, but in the long term, it only reinforces just the behaviors we’re trying to avoid. Encourage open and honest discussions to understand the root causes and work towards resolution in a respectful manner.

Celebrate and Recognize the Good Stuff: Acknowledge and celebrate times when employees demonstrate communication, collaboration, or conflict resolution skills. A simple “great job collaborating on this” can be enough. This reinforces the desired behaviors and encourages others to follow suit.”

Open Communication Builds Psychological Safety

Kaomi Joy Taylor
Founder & Chief Namiac, The Museum of Names

Name Fluency is a deceptively simple leadership behavior that can radically improve workplace civility. It’s not just about pronunciation — it’s about care.

Names are deeply tied to identity, culture, and belonging. Everyone has one – and they’re used daily in the workplace in countless ways. So mishandling them erodes trust fast. But visibly demonstrating care can help heal workplace divisions and rapidly grow civility and respect.

A Name Fluent leader:

Models dignity in how names are spoken and written in personal interactions.

Works to remember, spell, and pronounce names correctly and checks when unsure.

Sets a tone that discourages jokes, stereotypes, and sloppiness around names.

Adjusts systems to accommodate longer, non-Western, and atypical names.

Ask yourself: can you remember a time when your own name was omitted or mocked? How did it feel? That’s why anytime leaders handle names with care, they send a powerful message: You matter here. It’s not about perfection — it’s about people.

Name Fluency Enhances Workplace Civility

Donald Thompson
CEO & Executive Advisor, Donald Thompson

In today’s polarized environment, where online debates can spill into Slack threads and strategy meetings, leaders must go beyond surface-level tolerance. They must become stewards of psychological safety. That begins not with reacting, but with listening.

Empathetic listening signals to your team that you value understanding over judgment. When leaders show genuine curiosity, especially with viewpoints different from their own, they send a powerful message: disagreement doesn’t equal disrespect. This message sets the tone for everyone else.

At a time when many employees feel overlooked or dismissed, your attention becomes a form of leadership capital. It costs nothing, but pays off in trust, engagement, and collaboration.

Teams that feel heard outperform those that feel silenced.

Civility creates a workplace where people feel safe enough to speak up and strong enough to grow together.

Empathetic Listening Promotes Team Trust

Rhett Power
CEO & Co-founder, Accountability Inc

Leadership Behavior: Set the Standard Through Micro-Moments of Respect

Civility isn’t built through grand gestures—it’s shaped in the small, everyday interactions leaders have with their teams.

One powerful behavior is using micro-moments of respect: greeting colleagues by name, acknowledging contributions publicly, giving credit generously, and showing appreciation consistently. These seemingly minor acts reinforce a culture of value and dignity. When tensions rise—whether sparked by online debates or internal disagreements—people are more likely to stay grounded and respectful if those around them model basic human decency.

Leaders set the emotional tone. If they respond to conflict with composure, kindness, and fairness, their teams are more likely to follow. In polarized times, civility must be intentional, and it starts with small moments done well.

Micro-Moments of Respect Set Tone

Joanna Lovering
Founder, Copper + Rise

Want to foster civility at work? Start with your executive presence.

When online arguments start creeping into team dynamics, it’s easy for things to get tense, fast. But leaders with real executive presence don’t take the bait. They stay grounded, speak with clarity, and model respect, even when conversations get heated.

This isn’t about avoiding tough topics. It’s about how you show up when they surface. Do you raise your voice or raise the bar? Do you shut people down or hold the space with calm authority?

Your presence sets the tone. When you model composure, clarity, and mutual respect, others follow. That’s how you build a culture where disagreement doesn’t have to mean disconnection.

Executive Presence Models Civil Discourse

Jared Pope
CEO & Co-Founder, Work Shield

Today, disagreement doesn’t stop at the screen. It follows people into the office. Social media has made it easy to speak without filters.

People often say things online they’d never say to someone face-to-face. That boldness might feel harmless behind a screen, but when those comments carry into the workplace, whether through side conversations, Slack threads, or team meetings, they can quickly erode trust and collaboration.

Here’s a simple benchmark: if you wouldn’t say it to someone directly in a one-on-one conversation with respect and accountability, it probably doesn’t belong in a workplace discussion.

When something crosses the line online, leaders can’t afford to ignore it. A calm, direct check-in like “I saw what you posted. Can we talk about how that’s impacting the team?” can defuse tension before it festers. Just as important, modeling what it looks like to listen without judgment while still holding clear boundaries shows others how to follow suit.

Civility isn’t about being quiet or agreeable. It’s about showing up with clarity, curiosity, and self-control. Even when emotions run high. In today’s climate, leadership means knowing how to bring conversations back to common ground.”

Direct Check-Ins Defuse Online Tensions

Shaun Carse
Director, Trackershop

What under-appreciated technique for teaching politeness? The giving of ego the afternoon off.

At Trackershop, we receive this: if some form of dispute occurs, the last thing the world’ s best leader wants to do is attempt to turn the dispute to some form of power play.

What we do is attempt to be the “calm in the group chat”—the listener, the tension breaker with the smallest dad joke (“Alright, don’t throw the stapler—we’re all one team”), and return the communication to the unified goals.

Civility is not accommodating to the majority—it’s to the point where one doesn’t even feel the obligation to disagree at all, for one might be run over in the hallway or stared down in the break room at lunchtime.

If your workers see you resolve conflict humorously, humbly, and in reverence, they’ll do the same. Absolutely, less awkward silences in the break room.

Humor Calms Conflict, Unifies Teams

David Greiner
Founder & Attorney, Greiner Law Corp

Running both a law firm and Greiner Buick GMC for years taught me one crucial leadership behavior: create structured forums for open dialogue before conflicts escalate. When I served as Chairman of the Victor Valley Chamber of Commerce, I instituted monthly “straight talk” sessions where board members could voice concerns directly without formal procedures.

The breakthrough came when I co-founded the High Desert Senior Forum in 2009, operating it from my dealership showroom. We hosted over 100 meetings covering everything from congressional updates to gardening tips. The key was establishing clear ground rules upfront—everyone gets heard, but personal attacks weren’t tolerated.

At my dealership, this translated to weekly department head meetings where service, sales, and finance could air grievances openly. Instead of letting tensions simmer between departments, we addressed issues immediately. This approach helped us win multiple Best in the Desert awards for customer service.

The pattern I’ve seen in both business and legal practice is simple: give people a regular, structured outlet to be heard, and workplace conflicts rarely reach the boiling point.

Structured Forums Prevent Conflict Escalation

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Cooling Workplace Tensions: HR-Driven Leadership Strategies

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Cooling Workplace Tensions: HR-Driven Leadership Strategies

As online debates spill into workplace tensions, cultivating a culture of civility is critical for organizational success. 

This HR Spotlight article gathers insights from business leaders and HR professionals on one key leadership behavior to promote a positive work environment rooted in respect. 

From modeling constructive curiosity to leading with empathy and accountability, these experts share strategies that transform conflict into collaboration. 

Their approaches emphasize safe spaces for dialogue, proactive problem-solving, and inclusive communication, offering actionable lessons for leaders to foster civility, enhance team cohesion, and drive sustainable growth in today’s dynamic workplaces.

Read on!

Marin Cristian Ovidiu
CEO, Online Games

One leadership behavior I rely on to promote civility is modeling respectful disagreement in public.

In a remote team of creatives, developers, and marketers, ideas will clash—and that’s healthy. But the tone and transparency of how I respond to pushback set the standard.

When I calmly acknowledge differing views and ask clarifying questions instead of reacting defensively, it signals that disagreement isn’t conflict—it’s collaboration.

I also avoid private correction for public debates; instead, I treat those moments as opportunities to show what respectful discourse looks like in real time. This has created a team dynamic where people feel safe sharing ideas, knowing they won’t be shut down or shamed.

In today’s digital-first workplace, civility isn’t just about being nice—it’s about showing emotional control and leading with curiosity instead of ego.

Model Respectful Disagreement for Civility

Josh Qian
COO & Co-Founder, Best Online Cabinets

One effective leadership behavior for nurturing a positive work culture is to prioritize and model accountability.

When leaders take responsibility for their actions and decisions, they set a powerful example for the entire team.

By fostering a culture where accountability is valued, team members are more likely to own their roles and contributions, leading to higher levels of engagement and collaboration. When everyone feels accountable for their part in the team’s success, it reduces blame-shifting and defensiveness, which can often escalate conflicts.

Encouraging regular feedback, both giving and receiving, reinforces this culture of accountability. It helps create an environment where individuals feel empowered to speak up and share their perspectives, ultimately leading to more constructive discussions and a stronger sense of team cohesion.

Modeling Accountability Builds a Better Culture

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin
Certified Imago Therapist & Advanced Clinician, The Marriage Restoration Project

The one behavior which is extremely helpful is curiosity.

If an employee is disruptive, causing conflict, or underperforming, instead of rebuking or criticizing them, become curious about their story. Ask questions without interrogating. Find out what’s going on for them. Learn about what’s bothering them at work, at home, etc… Listen without judgment, without responding. As you listen long enough, they will undoubtedly make sense, even if you don’t agree.

Once people feel heard and that you care about what they have to say, they are much more likely to be responsive and more willing to collaborate.

After working with high conflict couples for over twenty years in his marriage counseling practice, I have discovered that the same process used with couples is exactly what companies need to do to sort out their workplace and communication differences.

Curiosity is a Leader’s Best Tool

Dennis Shirshikov
Head of Growth & Engineering, Growthlimit

At its essence, civility thrives when leaders regularly acknowledge and validate the different perspectives people bring to the table.

So, by actively seeking input from everyone, leaders indicate that all voices matter and opposing ideas are not quelled, but welcomed. This active recognition also contributes to breaking down hierarchical walls and stimulates open dialogue and reciprocal respect. It builds a culture where people are comfortable sharing concerns, questioning ideas, and sharing creative solutions. Because fundamentally, this behavior is indicative of a leader’s dedication not just to the performance metrics but to the human dynamics that will continue to drive long-term collaboration.

As perspective taking becomes a habit, ingrained as a cultural imperative, everyday interactions that reflect the organization’s deeper values of respect and inclusion emerge.

Validate Perspectives to Foster Civility

Steve Corcoran
CEO, Lawn Love

Be a leader who communicates well.

When it comes to conflict or issues with hostility in the workplace, those can be awkward situations to have to address. But, you have to be a leader who is willing to tackle them head-on and communicate clearly and effectively with your team. You can’t be a leader who shies away from the hard conversations and hopes that issues will resolve on their own.

This is just one of many reasons why it’s so important for leaders to be great communicators.

Communicating as a leader doesn’t just mean communicating with investors and external individuals – it means interpersonal team communication as well.

Leaders Must Tackle Hard Conversations

Adam Hamilton
CEO, REI Hub

Lead with compassion.

Compassionate leaders are able to lead in a way that always considers everybody’s feelings and makes sure to create a workspace where every single employee feels supported.

When you lead with compassion, you can help inspire compassion among those you lead, setting the foundation for how you want your team to treat each other. Leading with compassion also allows you to tackle delicate situations like conflict resolution with care.

Compassionate leadership is a type of leadership where you are able to both be effectively hands-on and you are able to set the tone for how your team acts even when you aren’t around.

Compassionate Leadership Sets a Positive Tone

Oleksii Kratko
Founder & CEO, Snov

One behavior I’ve championed across our 180-person global team (including conflict-zone engineers in Ukraine) is “Friction Fridays”: Every leader hosts a 15-minute virtual coffee where team members share one work-related frustration anonymously via sticky notes. The leader reads them aloud, and we collectively brainstorm solutions. No blame, just problem-solving.

This ritual transforms passive resentment into active collaboration.

For example, a note like “Design mockups always arrive late, making QA rushed” became a new Slack protocol where designers tag “ready for review” with a 24-hour buffer. The magic here is that vulnerability starts at the top, as I kickstart sessions with my own flaws (“I overbook calendar slots; call me out!”).

Civility isn’t about avoiding conflict, it’s about creating safe spaces to resolve it.

Friction Fridays Resolve Conflict with Collaboration

Davide Pirola
CTO, Trep Digitalx

One of the most effective leadership behaviors to promote civility is modeling ‘constructive curiosity.’

When tension arises, leaders should respond not with judgment or silence, but with thoughtful questions: ‘Help me understand your perspective’ or ‘What outcome are you hoping for?’ This shifts the tone from conflict to collaboration.

At Trep DigitalX, we actively train team leads to stay curious rather than defensive, especially in disagreement. It creates space for open dialogue without escalating friction.

By normalizing respectful inquiry, we create a culture where it’s safe to challenge ideas, not people. Civility isn’t about avoiding conflict; it’s about how we engage when it happens.

Constructive Curiosity Promotes Workplace Civility

Steve Schwab
CEO, Casago Vacasa

Good leaders should know how to resolve conflict.

They should know how to step in during the middle of an argument, how to handle a conflict once it’s happened, and how to prevent conflict in the first place. These situations can be a bit tricky to handle since emotions can be heavily involved, which is why leaders need empathy.

Leading with empathy allows you to see things from everyone’s perspective and come up with a course of action and resolution that respects everyone’s feelings and opinions.

So, having empathy and stepping in is necessary for any good leader to foster civility and handle conflict.

Empathy is Essential for Conflict Resolution

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

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