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Workplace Conflicts: Leadership Tips for a Positive Work Culture

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Workplace Conflicts: Leadership Tips for a Positive Work Culture

Online arguments no longer stay online—they leak into Slack threads, meeting rooms, and water-cooler chats, turning differing opinions into outright tension.

In a world where a single heated comment can fracture team trust, what single leadership behavior can pull workplaces back from the brink and rebuild civility?

In this HR Spotlight roundup, we asked executives, pastors, veterinarians, communication strategists, and organizational coaches one focused question: “As digital discord spills into daily work, what’s the one leadership move you swear by to keep culture respectful and productive?”

Their answers converge on a surprising truth: civility isn’t enforced with new rules or mandatory training.

It’s modeled, moment by moment, through behaviors like curiosity-driven questions, story-driven listening, managerial courage, and even protecting a morning self-care ritual.

These leaders prove that one consistent habit from the top can ripple outward, turning potential conflicts into stronger connections.

Read on!

Cathy Dolan Schweitzer
President, Health Well Done

If I had to identify the single most important leadership behavior, it would be maintaining a morning
ritual of self-care: exercise and meditation.

These combined intentional practices of mindfulness and Being grateful allows a leader to be more positive and grounded.

When leaders protect their morning routine, they’re better equipped to manage stress and respond thoughtfully than reactively throughout the day.

This is a powerful example of how personal habits directly impact professional behavior that
ripples into team culture.

The path to a civil, thriving workplace culture begins with one leader’s commitment to their morning ritual.

When we recognize that our personal wellness directly impacts our professional effectiveness, we unlock the power to transform not just ourselves, but our entire organizational ecosystem—one mindful morning at a time.

Morning Ritual Saves the Day

Dr. Meg Adams
Co-Founder, Homeplace Creative

One of the most powerful leadership behaviors to foster civility is story-driven listening.

When leaders ask thoughtful questions and create space for team members to share their perspectives, they signal that people matter.

This behavior helps to humanize the workplace, reduce polarization, and deepen mutual understanding.

Story-driven listening isn’t passive; it’s an intentional act of empathy. Story-driven listening requires leaders to slow down, withhold judgment, and reflect on what they hear.

When practiced consistently, it diffuses tension, increases psychological safety, and encourages open dialogue, even when people disagree.

In short, leaders who lead with listening cultivate cultures where people feel seen and respected, which is the foundation of civility.

Listen to Their Story First

Dr. L. Todd Thomas
Associate Academic Dean, Devos Northwood

Demonstrating humility and curiosity can be a powerful leadership behavior to support a culture of civility.

When workplace tension and conflict mirrors the polarized tone we see online, leaders who ask questions, rather than take positions or make assumptions, can immediately set a different tone.

For example, if two employees clash over a political issue that surfaced on a company’s Slack channel, a leader might step in not to shut it down, but to inquire about the thought process behind the viewpoint.

That curiosity de-escalates emotion and encourages reflection.
When the leader also shows humility, admitting to having to rethink her or his own stance at times, it models openness and self-awareness.

This approach reframes conflict as a chance to understand rather than to win, and provides a model of what civil disagreement can look like.

Humility Disarms Heated Debates

Samantha Bateman
BA, Integria Consulting

Managerial courage is the leadership behaviour I’d recommend every time.

As online discourse spills into the workplace, civility needs to be modelled—and protected. Leaders should be having regular one-on-one conversations with their team, using those moments to call in behaviour that’s misaligned with company values and open the door for reflection and growth.

But there are also times when it’s necessary to call out and nip things in the bud, right in the moment—especially when behaviour risks harming team dynamics or psychological safety.

Avoiding discomfort might feel easier in the short term, but it erodes trust and clarity over time. Culture is shaped by what leaders choose to address—and what they choose to ignore.

Courage Calls Out Toxicity Fast

R. Karl Hebenstreit
Organization Development Consultant, Performandfunction

Practicing, role modeling, and rewarding emotional intelligence in general, and empathy, specifically, is the key to fostering civility in the workplace and the world.

Once we realize that we don’t see the world the way everyone else does, and that our perspective is just a minute lens into reality, we can then become more open to the perspectives, worldviews, and ideas of others.

True empathy for others’ lived experiences and learned perspectives, and incorporating/integrating them into our own worldviews and practices, results in a more inclusive, psychologically-safe environment that fosters real understanding and honoring of others’ diverse perspectives, respect and civility, and innovation … and, fortuitously, also produces optimum business results.

Empathy Is the Ultimate Model

Dr. Misty D. Freeman
Founder, Mocha Sprout

One powerful leadership behavior that fosters civility at work is inclusive decision-making.

When leaders intentionally invite diverse voices into the decision-making process, especially early on, they signal that every perspective holds value.

This cultivates a culture where respect is not just encouraged but expected. Inclusive decision-making reduces workplace tension by addressing the root causes of disengagement.

These causes are usually invisibility, exclusion, and lack of psychological safety.

It strengthens trust and empathy among teams while modeling how to navigate disagreement with dignity.

In my work at Mocha Sprout, I’ve seen that belonging and innovation thrive when people feel seen, heard, and empowered to shape outcomes.

We have to remember that civility isn’t a byproduct but a behavior that is practiced daily.

Layoff Is Forced Margin for Clarity

Jacquelin Connelly
BFA, CPHR, Certified Organizational Coach, Coaching That Belongs

One leadership behavior that can interrupt, often even prevent, conflict in the workplace is to take a coach approach.

Leaders who lead with curiosity instead of control or correction foster more civility.

That might sound like: “What’s important about this to you?” or “What would a constructive conversation look like here?”.

Asking thoughtful, open-ended questions invites reflection over reaction. It encourages team members to pause, think, and respond with intention rather than impulse.

This approach also allows self-awareness and agency of team members to show up because they’re being invited to support finding a solution.

Over time, this approach models psychological safety, and when people feel safe enough to stay in conversation, they’re far more likely to stay kind.

Coach Questions Defuse Conflict

Beth Boyd
Director, TalentLab

Active listening is a cornerstone of workplace civility, yet it remains one of the most underdeveloped & undervalued leadership skills.


In today’s workplaces, constant notifications and competing demands often pull our attention away from colleagues, whether they’re in front of us in person or on a screen.


This distraction can unintentionally signal that their presence & input are less significant than our devices or to-do lists, and we’re missing more than half of their communication.


Elevating civility begins with a conscious commitment to be fully present in every interaction. This means silencing distractions & focusing on the whole person: their words, tone, & non-verbal cues.


When we truly listen, we demonstrate respect, foster trust, & create a culture where everyone feels seen, heard, &valued.


Prioritizing attentive, empathetic listening sets a standard for respectful interactions.


This simple shift can transform workplace dynamics, reduce misunderstandings, & elevate the overall sense of civility & collaboration.

Full Presence Beats Notifications

Jeff Bogue
Senior Pastor, Grace Church & President, Buildmomentum

Dropped: Conflict avoidance and hoping issues would resolve themselves.

Early in my pastoral leadership, I’d let team tensions simmer rather than address them directly.

Adopted: Immediate curiosity-driven conversations when I sense workplace friction.

At Grace Church with our 150+ staff across eight campuses, I now approach conflicts by asking genuine questions like “Help me understand your perspective” rather than making assumptions or taking sides.

The change was remarkable. Our staff turnover dropped significantly, and cross-campus collaboration improved dramatically.

When our Philadelphia and Los Angeles Urban Centers faced communication breakdowns last year, this approach helped us resolve issues in days rather than months.

The key insight: curiosity disarms defensiveness faster than any other leadership tool. When people feel heard before being corrected, they’re exponentially more likely to find common ground.

Sometimes the most civil thing you can do is admit you don’t have all the answers.

Curious Now, Drama Gone Tomorrow

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Employee Recognition Missing the Mark? The Feedback Rituals That Actually Matter

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Employee Recognition Missing the Mark? The Feedback Rituals That Actually Matter

Most leaders think “recognition” means an annual bonus or Employee of the Month plaque.

The founders and CEOs in this HR Spotlight roundup disagree—loudly.

They’ve learned that making people feel truly seen has almost nothing to do with budget and everything to do with tiny, deliberate daily habits: a Fleetwood Mac playlist for the massage therapist, a handwritten note after a tough install, a 3-minute “Problem of the Day” huddle, or simply repeating back what someone just accomplished before moving on.

These aren’t grand gestures; they’re micro-moments of noticing the human behind the role.

And the results—higher engagement, lower turnover, teams that actually celebrate each other—prove that feeling seen isn’t a nice-to-have.

It’s the new competitive advantage. Here are the exact rituals and gestures that actually work.

Read on!

Damien Zouaoui
Co-Founder, Oakwell Beer Spa

The team began creating customized Spotify playlists for each member as a basic initiative.

The sound of Fleetwood Mac music from the massage therapist made me create an unexpected playlist for her work shift.

She became delighted when she listened to the music.

The team now takes turns selecting music and snacks and aromatherapy oils that match individual preferences of staff members.

The team members feel valued through these tiny gestures which demonstrate our awareness of their presence.

The team organizes brief “cheers” sessions following every demanding work period.

The team uses kombucha breaks to share amusing guest stories while they recognize team members who handled challenging situations.

The relaxed atmosphere creates a sense of importance for team members beyond their job roles without any expectations.

The brief time spent together brings significant value to the team.

Fleetwood Mac Fixed Morale

Ben Southall
Co-Founder, Talked

The most effective practices are often the simplest and most consistent.

Regular weekly check-ins, both as a team and one-on-one, create space to talk about wins, challenges, and how someone is actually doing, not just what they are working on.

Celebrating small wins on Slack or in daily conversations can go a long way too.

Whether it is a kind word from a client or someone lending a hand, recognizing those everyday moments helps people feel appreciated when it really matters.

Structured recognition, like monthly shoutouts or celebrating milestones, can definitely be valuable and I would still recommend including them.

But these formal gestures often come too late or feel a bit disconnected from the reality of someone’s day-to-day experience.

I suggest balancing them with regular, informal feedback that shows you are genuinely paying attention.

Most importantly, make sure your recognition acknowledges the person, not just the work. Show that you see them as a whole person with a life outside of their role.

That kind of thoughtful, ongoing recognition can make a lasting impact and help employees feel connected and cared for.

Small Wins Beat Annual Awards

Seema Thakkar
President, Vogue Window Fashion

I’ve also found that regular, informal feedback works better than infrequent formal reviews.

During check ins on projects like automating shades for a luxury residence I focus on what went well and where someone can grow, always tying it back to how their skills improve the client experience.

This keeps employees visible and valued without creating stress or pressure.

Even small gestures make a big difference.

Praising someone for problem solving on a tricky curtain system or for thoughtful input during a design consultation communicates appreciation every day.

I sometimes follow up with a quick note or internal shout out, so recognition doesn’t just vanish it’s remembered.

Linking recognition to real client outcomes is also powerful.

Sharing how a team member’s work transformed a space like an office with automated, energy efficient shades helps employees see the real world impact of their efforts.

It makes their daily work feel meaningful in a tangible way.

Lastly, encouraging peer to peer recognition strengthens the culture.

When team members highlight each other’s contributions during installations or brainstorming sessions, it creates an environment where everyone feels noticed.

Consistent, authentic recognition boosts morale and engagement just like a beautifully installed window treatment can transform a room.

Praise the Install, Not the Invoice

Illustrious Espiritu
Marketing Director, Autostar Heavy Duty

For a long time, our recognition practices were a top-down approach.

I’d give a bonus or a team dinner, but it didn’t help employees on the front lines feel seen.

They were just a cog in a machine. We knew we had to find a way to build a positive culture.

The specific practices I’d recommend are a combination of a daily ritual and a sense of purpose.

The daily ritual is a “Problem of the Day” huddle.

We take a few minutes at the beginning of every day to share one problem that we are grateful to be solving for our customers.

This gives the team a sense of purpose beyond a paycheck.

The feedback ritual is a simple, old-school method that we call a “Shout-out of the Week.” Every person has to give a shout-out to a peer who helped them with a specific task.

This empowers every person on the team to recognize a peer. The daily gesture is to ask, “How can I help you?”

I learned that a person who feels seen is a person who is a partner.

The impact has been a massive increase in our team’s morale and their productivity.

Our team is no longer just a collection of people with a task. They are a collection of problem-solvers.

The biggest win is that we built a culture where people were constantly learning from each other.

My advice is that the best way to help employees “feel seen” is to give them a voice.

Daily Problems, Daily Purpose

Patrick Ono
Insurance Expert, Patrick Ono Agency

Helping employees feel truly seen starts with noticing the little things.

When someone goes above and beyond whether helping a client, improving a process, or supporting a teammate, taking a moment to acknowledge it makes a huge difference.

A handwritten note, a quick shoutout in a meeting, or even a private message saying I saw the work you put in, thank you shows that their efforts matter.

Regular check-ins are also key.

A quick weekly conversation about progress, challenges, or goals gives employees a chance to be heard and supported.

Feedback that focuses on specific actions rather than vague praise shows that you’re paying attention, and two way conversations let employees feel their opinions and ideas are valued too.

Small day to day gestures really add up.

Remembering birthdays or work anniversaries, celebrating personal wins, or even treating someone to coffee for consistent effort makes people feel acknowledged not just for what they do, but for who they are.

These moments build a culture where employees feel respected and appreciated.

I see parallels in how I work with clients.

When someone knows their insurance is tailored to their unique situation, they feel secure and confident.

The same principle applies with employees, When recognition is thoughtful and personal, it creates trust, engagement, and a sense of belonging.

Finally, sharing real stories about the impact someone’s work has made strengthens that connection.

Hearing how a project succeeded because of their contribution helps employees see the tangible difference they make, making recognition feel meaningful and lasting.

Handwritten Notes Beat Gift Cards

Yassien Youssef
Real Estate Investment & Development, Compass

Daily feedback rituals make a big difference. Short, focused check ins that go beyond generic praise give employees a chance to feel heard and understood.
For example, if someone navigates a complex situation successfully, taking a moment to highlight exactly what they did well shows that their skills and judgment are noticed.

Giving people space to share their ideas in meetings or one on one conversations also helps them feel included and valued.

Incorporating recognition into everyday routines reinforces a culture where contributions matter.

Celebrating small wins like resolving a zoning issue or finalizing a lease can be as simple as a verbal shout out during a team huddle or a mention in a newsletter.

Recognizing effort as well as results reminds people that every step they take counts, and in my experience in Boston’s luxury market, this kind of consistent acknowledgment builds loyalty and motivation.

Connecting recognition to bigger picture impact also helps employees feel seen.

Showing how someone’s work, whether improving a property’s appeal or strengthening client relationships advances broader goals makes their contributions feel meaningful.

Bringing these connections up in team meetings or one on one chats reinforces that their work truly matters. Finally, authenticity is key.

Remembering personal milestones, cultural touchpoints, or even preferences when offering praise shows you see them as more than just a role.

Celebrating both professional achievements and personal moments in thoughtful, intentional ways creates a sense of belonging and makes employees feel genuinely valued.

Daily Feedback > Yearly Review

Ben Rasmussen
Advisor, Email Guard

Employees feel truly seen when recognition is personal, consistent, and genuine.

A simple thank you in a team meeting for a specific contribution or a short note highlighting a job well done can make a huge difference.

It doesn’t have to be a big gesture; the key is that employees know their work is noticed and valued.

Regular feedback rituals help make this recognition a habit.

Quick weekly check-ins where employees can share wins and challenges give leaders the chance to notice contributions in real time.

Celebrating milestones, like finishing a project or reaching a personal goal, shows that growth and effort are just as important as results.

Everyday actions matter too.

Taking a moment to thank someone after they solve a tricky problem, or sharing their innovative ideas in an internal newsletter, reinforces that their work matters.

Combining public recognition with private appreciation ensures people feel respected without being put on the spot.

The most effective recognition is consistent and specific.

Vague praise doesn’t resonate, but pointing out exactly what someone did and why it mattered builds trust and motivation.

When employees see that their unique efforts are noticed regularly, it strengthens engagement and loyalty.

Specific Thanks, Every Single Time

Erin Ruddy
Owner, Winston-Salem Massage and Bodywork

Public recognition during team meetings is a powerful way to make employees feel valued for their contributions.

I’ve found that specifically calling out individuals who have gone above and beyond, like when a part-time team member handled extra administrative tasks during a busy promotional period, shows genuine appreciation.

Taking time to acknowledge these efforts in front of peers demonstrates that management notices the work being done, even during hectic times.

This simple practice helps maintain team engagement and prevents unintentional harm to morale when workloads are heavy.

Public Call-Outs Heal Heavy Workloads

Dr. Thomas W. Faulkner
Principal Consultant, Faulkner HR Solutions

Look, recognition doesn’t need to be elaborate. We just need to treat the people who work for us as people, not as titles in an org chart.

At the end of the day, employees aren’t begging for a pat on the back. They’re asking to be seen and being seen means more than “thanks for showing up.”

It means knowing the work they do has meaningful impact, not only to the organization but to you as their supervisor.

The best practices I push are simple: call out specific contributions in context, give feedback tied to outcomes, and make space in check-ins for employees to share what’s working or what’s blocking them.

Employees are so much more than just a headcount. If you see it, they will too.

Faulkner HR Solutions provides expert HR consulting, workforce development, and process improvement for small to mid-sized businesses and municipalities.

We specialize in compliance audits, employee relations, training programs, and performance management systems.

Through our Faulkner HR Academy, we offer practical, competency-based courses and certifications to help HR professionals and leaders build internal capacity and drive organizational growth.

Led by Dr. Thomas Faulkner, SPHR, we deliver tailored strategies that align people, processes, and purpose.

See the Human, Not the Headcount

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The “Feeling Seen” Factor: Why Small Gestures Drive Big Retention

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The "Feeling Seen" Factor: Why Small Gestures Drive Big Retention

What if the quietest employee in the room is the one who feels most invisible, and what if that invisibility is quietly costing you your best talent?

In a world where 79% of people who quit cite “not feeling recognized” as the reason (Gallup), the question isn’t whether recognition matters; it’s whether yours actually lands.

This HR Spotlight pulls back the curtain on the subtle, specific rituals and everyday gestures that make people light up with “someone finally sees me.”

From handwritten cards that outshine gift cards to peer shout-outs that spark contagious energy, from “Mission Moments” that name remote heroes to simple questions that turn burnout into belonging, these leaders prove recognition isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about deliberate moments that say, without words, “your work, your struggle, and you matter here.”

In 2025’s hybrid reality, these are the sparks that turn good teams into unstoppable ones.

Read on!

Brandon Brown
CEO, Search Party

Funny story: when our team grew from just a handful to hundreds, I learned that recognition needed to scale without losing its authenticity.

One ritual that worked was ending big meetings with ‘shout-outs,’ where anyone could thank a teammate for going above and beyond the collective energy that was contagious.

My advice is to keep recognition authentic and diverse, mixing public praise with quiet one-on-one feedback so people feel valued in ways that resonate personally.

Shout-Outs Scale Without Losing Soul

Justin Carpenter
Founder, Jacksonville Maids

For our cleaning teams, feeling valued goes far beyond just paychecksit’s about everyday gestures.

I’ve seen how a handwritten thank-you card after a long weekend on jobs lifted spirits in a way emails never could.
We also set aside five minutes during meetings for peers to recognize each other’s work, which created an uplifting loop of feedback.

If you’re managing hourly or seasonal staff, just remembering to highlight their effort on tough days keeps motivation high.

Handwritten Cards Beat Gift Cards

Sergiy Fitsak
Managing Director, Softjourn

Creating consistent opportunities for connection is essential for making employees feel recognized and valued.

I’ve found that implementing regular virtual coffee chats and designing inclusive meetings that accommodate different time zones shows team members they matter regardless of their location.

Additionally, fostering an environment of open dialogue where everyone is encouraged to share their perspectives demonstrates that each person’s input is valued.

These simple but intentional practices help team members feel seen and appreciated in their daily work experience.

Virtual Coffee Builds Real Bonds

Joe Davies
CEO, FATJOE

After years of leading remote SEO teams, I can tell you consistency in recognition is non-negotiable.

Since we don’t work in the same office, we start each week with a quick virtual stand-up where people call out teammates who made their jobs easier. It creates a culture where peer shoutouts mean more than top-down praise.

For bigger wins, I keep a shared tracker called the “Impact Board” that shows client results tied to specific team contributions.
Seeing your name directly connected to growth makes the work feel more tangible.

My suggestion is to build recognition into daily workflows so feedback feels natural, not forced.

Impact Board Links Names to Wins

Ibrahim Alnabelsi
VP New Ventures, Prezlab

When scaling a team from a handful of people to over a hundred, I noticed employees feel most valued when their ideas make it into leadership discussions.

For instance, if someone suggests an adjustment to our sales flow, I make a point of crediting them in the roadmap presentation.

On the job, I default to highlighting these contributions within strategic sessions because people remember when their voice leads to real change.

Credit Ideas, Watch Voices Soar

Aja Chavez
Executive Director, Mission Prep Healthcare

I’ve learned that recognition doesn’t always have to be formal. It can be as simple as calling out someone’s effort in a huddle.

I’ll put it this way: a quick thank-you during staff check-ins turned our biggest issue of burnout into a non-event.

Once, I spotlighted an admin’s behind-the-scenes scheduling work, and the ripple of appreciation was undeniable.

My suggestion: create a rhythm where small gestures of acknowledgment are just part of everyday culture.

Quick Huddle Thanks Crush Burnout

Piotr Zabula
CEO, Feedink

I’ve found that taking a personal interest in each team member’s specific work and contributions is one of the most effective ways to help employees feel seen.

During my time as an Executive Director, I made it a point to regularly acknowledge individual contributions, especially during periods of uncertainty.

This practice not only helps team members understand the value of their work in the broader context of organizational goals, but also significantly boosts motivation and engagement.

Being genuinely curious about your employees’ projects and recognizing their unique strengths builds the foundation for a culture where people truly feel valued.

Curiosity Makes Everyone Feel Valued

Frank Sturm
CEO, Green Ace Lawn Care

Helping employees feel truly seen comes down to noticing the little things as much as the big wins.

At GreenAce Lawncare, I make it a point to call out specific efforts during our morning check-ins.

If someone goes the extra mile maybe they stayed late to finish a fertilization route or tackled a tricky lawn problem. I mention it by name and explain why it mattered. Even small recognition like that makes a huge difference in morale because it shows their work isn’t just another task it’s valued.

We also do short weekly one on one chats. These aren’t just about performance; they’re about listening.

I remember Carlos, one of our technicians, was struggling with a new mowing route with tough terrain. Talking through it allowed us to adjust his workload and offer support, which made him feel heard and trusted.

These conversations show employees that their opinions and challenges matter, and that they’re part of shaping how we do things.

Simple day to day gestures also go a long way. Walking a property with someone, sharing a quick coffee, or just commenting on the quality of their work can make someone feel noticed.

Jasmine, one of our crew members, once told me she really appreciated when I complimented her careful edging on a difficult lawn it made her feel like her attention to detail was valued. Moments like that quietly build a culture of appreciation.

We also highlight accomplishments publicly. At the end of each month, we call out standout work during team huddles and occasionally post photos of projects with crew credits on our social media.

When clients compliment a specific team member, I make sure they hear it directly.

Recognizing people in front of their peers reinforces their contributions and builds pride in their work.

Morning Call-Outs Lift Entire Crews

Joaquin Calvo
Director, Comligo Spanish

I recommend implementing a weekly recognition ritual during team meetings where you spotlight one employee by sharing a specific example of their exceptional work or how they’ve embodied company values.

At Comligo, we’ve found success with our ‘Mission Moment’ practice during all-hands meetings, where we highlight remote team members by describing concrete examples of their contributions, such as when a teacher went beyond the lesson plan to help a student understand cultural nuances.

This public acknowledgment not only makes the recognized employee feel valued but also reinforces desired behaviors and company values for the entire team.

Mission Moments Spotlight Remote Heroes

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HR’s Positivity Plan: Leadership Behavior for a Better Workplace

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Correcting the Course: Measures to Improve Employee Conduct

What if the fiercest online flame wars are quietly training your team to treat disagreement like warfare?

As digital debates spill into Slack threads, stand-ups, and water-cooler chats, a single question haunts every leader: how do we stop the internet’s worst habits from colonizing our culture?

This HR Spotlight dares to dig deeper: is civility a soft skill—or the hardest edge a modern workplace can sharpen?

From modeling curiosity in the heat of tension to owning mistakes before anyone else can weaponize them, seasoned leaders reveal the one behavior that turns conflict from poison into progress.

Their answers expose a startling truth: in 2025, the companies that win won’t be the loudest or the most “right”; they’ll be the ones whose leaders refuse to fight fire with fire, and instead teach their teams how to disagree like grown-ups.

Read on!

Chris Trout
Founder & Principal, Donloninsights

When I think about civility at work, one of the first things that comes to mind, ironically, is tension.

Because one of the most powerful leadership behaviors for building a civil, healthy culture is modeling constructive curiosity in moments of disagreement.

When workplace conflict arises, especially as online debates seep into our teams, leaders who stay grounded, ask real questions, and seek to understand before reacting set a different tone. And that tone isn’t just intellectual, it’s felt.

This doesn’t mean avoiding conflict. It means navigating it with clarity and care.

Curiosity slows the impulse to escalate and opens space for people to be seen and heard.

Over time, it builds a culture where people don’t fear disagreement, they trust that it can lead somewhere better.

Civility isn’t about comfort. It’s about how we lead through discomfort together.

And the leaders who model that are building healthy cultures.

Curiosity Turns Conflict into Connection

Dr. Noah St. John
CEO & High-Performance Coach, MeetNoah

One of the most powerful leadership behaviors to foster civility is modeling emotional discipline.

In a world where online arguments spill into real-world dynamics, leaders who regulate their own tone and reactions set the standard for respectful dialogue.

At the root of most conflict is unspoken head trash, fear of being wrong, unheard, or disrespected.

When leaders communicate with clarity and curiosity instead of defensiveness, it invites teams to do the same. Culture follows behavior.

Discipline Your Tone, Shape the Culture

Katie Meyer
CEO, Moon Lab Productions

At MoonLab, we lead with intentional vulnerability.

As an agency grounded in creativity and collaboration, we’ve found that when leaders are willing to name uncertainty, own their missteps, and invite feedback, even publicly, it creates psychological safety across the team.

In an industry where pressure and perfectionism can run high, modeling this behavior normalizes honesty over ego and curiosity over control.

When leaders say, “I don’t have the answer yet” or “I may have missed something here,” it opens the door for respectful dialogue and shared problem-solving.

Civility thrives in environments where humility is not a weakness but a strength, and where empathy is embedded into how we lead, not just how we manage conflict.

Vulnerability Builds Psychological Safety

Brenda Buckman
Senior Director of Digital Web Presence, Huntress

My leadership behavior recommendation is to model active listening in all your workplace interactions.

Whether things are going well or a conflict is happening, as a leader you can actively listen and show your team that every perspective matters and that no decision is rushed or biased.

This behavior actively encourages your employees to voice their concerns out loud and share their ideas without worrying about being judged or dismissed.

It also creates space for mutual understanding between all team members and it helps your people not only in their interaction with one another but also with you as any and all disagreements are worked through constructively.

With trust and understanding and a willingness to resolve all situations together, your team will be unstoppable!

Active Listening Stops Escalation Cold

Scott Crosby
Technology Specialist, EnCompassiowa

Having worked through various tech industry challenges at EnCompass, I’ve learned that candidness with respect is the most powerful leadership behavior for workplace civility.
When our team faced difficult client situations, I found that delivering honest feedback while showing genuine encouragement prevented conflicts from escalating into personal attacks.

The key is what I call “reverse-role candidness” – instead of directly criticizing someone’s approach, I encourage them to evaluate the situation themselves.

During a recent project deadline crunch, rather than calling out a team member’s missed deliverable, I asked “What do you think went differently than planned?” This approach led to productive problem-solving instead of defensive responses.

At EnCompass, we’ve seen this translate into measurable results. When managers practice respectful candidness, our internal conflict resolution time dropped significantly, and team cohesion improved during high-pressure client implementations.

The technique works because it maintains dignity while addressing real issues.

Respectful Candor Beats Sugar-Coating

Jann Richardson
Creative Director & Founder, The Lamp Goods

As the creative director and founder of The Lamp Goods, I’ve had over ten years at the head of a close-knit team of artisanal employees where communication, teamwork, and imagination come naturally.

Operating the business side and hands-on design side of a lighting firm has taught me the importance of maintaining a positive, respectful work environment — especially when egos and opinions conflict.

One of my greatest leadership habits is to model calm, clear communication — especially in tough times.

Whether a conflict is constructive or destructive depends on how the leader manages it and responds.

I make sure to stop, listen carefully, and then respond with empathy.

It makes a space where members feel comfortable bringing forward ideas and issues without risking dismissal.
Civility is not being tactically polite — it’s creating trust and creating space for honest and respectful conversation.

Calm Communication Defuses Drama

Anne Marie White
Owner, Dream Big Counseling & Wellness, Dream Big Counseling and Wellness

Active Listening with Emotional Validation is the most powerful leadership behavior I’ve seen transform workplace dynamics.

In my experience running Dream Big Counseling & Wellness and working in various therapeutic settings, this single skill prevents 70% of conflicts from escalating.

When team members feel genuinely heard—not just acknowledged—they’re less likely to become defensive or reactive.

I’ve watched managers completely shift their workplace culture by simply pausing to say “I can see this situation is really frustrating for you” before diving into solutions.

The key is validating the emotion without necessarily agreeing with the position.

In family therapy sessions, I’ve seen this technique de-escalate heated arguments within minutes. The same principle works in boardrooms—people need to feel their concerns matter before they can engage in productive dialogue.

This approach costs nothing but creates psychological safety that drives both civility and performance.

When employees know their feelings will be acknowledged rather than dismissed, they’re more willing to bring up issues early instead of letting them fester into bigger conflicts.

Validate Feelings, Unlock Solutions

Beth Southorn
Executive Director, Lifestepsusa

When I started leading LifeSTEPS through serving 36,000 homes across California, I found that transparent acknowledgment of mistakes creates the strongest foundation for workplace civility.

Instead of deflecting when our programs hit snags, I began openly discussing what went wrong in team meetings.

During our expansion phase, one of our housing retention initiatives initially struggled in certain communities.

Rather than pointing fingers, I stood up in our all-hands meeting and said “I approved this approach too quickly without enough community input.” This immediately shifted our team culture from blame to problem-solving.

The results were measurable – we achieved that 98.3% housing retention rate in 2020 partly because staff felt safe raising concerns early.

When leaders model vulnerability by owning their failures first, it gives everyone permission to speak up about problems before they escalate into conflicts.

In nonprofit work with vulnerable populations, mistakes can have serious consequences.

But I’ve learned that teams perform better when they know their leader won’t throw them under the bus when things go sideways.

Own Mistakes First, Win Trust

Ann Krajewski
Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Founder, Everbe Therapy

Dropped: Rushing to solve every workplace conflict the moment it surfaces. I used to jump in immediately when team tensions arose, trying to fix everything before people could process their emotions.

Adopted: Modeling curiosity about underlying feelings during conflicts.
Instead of offering quick solutions, I started asking questions like “What might be underneath this frustration?” and “What boundary feels crossed here?” This mirrors the boundary-setting work I do with my therapy clients.

The shift was remarkable.

When I began treating workplace anger as information rather than a problem to eliminate, my team started communicating more authentically.

They learned to express concerns without blame, which reduced the cycle of defensiveness that typically escalates conflicts.

The same principle I use with perfectionist clients applies to leadership—honoring feelings rather than rushing past them creates the psychological safety where real solutions emerge.

Teams need space to breathe and reflect before they can align with their values.

Curious Questions Heal Hidden Hurts

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Beyond the Annual Review: Simple Rituals To Make Employees Feel Seen

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Beyond the Annual Review: Simple Rituals To Make Employees Feel Seen

Feeling seen fuels engagement, yet 79% of employees cite lack of recognition as a quit driver per Gallup 2025. 

This HR Spotlight article compiles specific practices, rituals, and gestures from business leaders and HR professionals to make staff feel valued. 

Experts recommend public shout-outs tied to impact, mentor spotlights, and personal check-ins that celebrate effort beyond metrics. 

They share rituals like “Ranking Hero” Slack posts, cultural awards, and investor-call highlights boosting morale 30-50%. 

In hybrid 2025 workplaces, these low-cost habits foster belonging, cut turnover, and turn recognition into retention’s secret weapon.

Read on!

Aaron McGurk
Managing Director, Wally

It hit me during one of our weekly SEO updates that highlighting individual winslike a sudden jump in keyword rankingsreally energized the team.

We turned it into a fun ritual where we post a ‘Ranking Hero’ spotlight in Slack, complete with client feedback when possible, and the whole team rallies around it.

My playbook for keeping remote employees feeling seen almost always starts with these public, specific acknowledgments that tie directly back to their impact.

Ranking Heroes Ignite Team Fire

Mike Wall
Founder & CEO, We Buy Gulf Coast Houses

In my experience managing crews on renovations, small gestures matter even more than formal awards.

I’ll never forget when I bought lunch for the team after an especially long dayit wasn’t about the food, it was about saying, ‘I see the effort.

We also do quick feedback huddles at the end of bigger projects, where each person shares one win they noticed in another teammate.

Simple, consistent gestures like these create a culture where people feel both valued and respected.

Surprise Lunches Spark Pure Gratitude

Dr. Edward Espinosa
Owner, OptumMD

In medicine, I’ve found that recognition has the most impact when it feels directly tied to the patient outcomes staff help create.

For example, after a nurse guided a patient through an effective diabetes management plan, I highlighted her role in front of the whole team and called her a ‘Wellness Champion”.

Watching her colleagues applaud was more meaningful than any gift card I could have given.

My advice is to make recognition very patient-centered and to frame it around how the staff’s dedication translates to care and healing.

Wellness Champions Save Lives Daily

Yoan Amselem
Managing Director, German Cultural Association of Hong Kong

In multicultural education teams, recognition needs to reflect cultural nuances, and we’ve seen cross-cultural mentorship make this powerful.

Celebrating mentors who help newcomers integrate by sharing their language and customs not only inspires others, but also builds stronger team bonds.

We measured before and after implementing cultural competency awards, and team engagement improved overnight.

Even day-to-day, greeting colleagues in their native language or acknowledging the extra effort they put into bridging language gaps helps them feel truly seen.

Cultural Mentors Bridge Hearts Fast

Runbo Li
CEO, Magic Hour

Creative teams thrive when they know their contributions aren’t going unnoticed.

At Magic Hour, we highlight real-time wins in a shared channel, whether it’s a video going viral or a new collaboration launching it instantly sparks encouragement across the team.

For larger moments, like securing media partnerships, we schedule virtual shoutouts that give the entire group time to reflect on the effort behind the success.

This approach is now baked into how we build culture, ensuring recognition is both timely and inclusive.

From my experience, pairing structured shoutouts with casual gestures like a quick note of thanks keeps morale consistently strong.

Viral Wins Get Instant Cheers

Campbell Hunt
Partner, Caldera Royalty Company

In this work, details matter. When a teammate pulls county records late at night or clarifies terms with a landowner, I call it out right there. A simple “that was sharp work” makes sure the effort isn’t missed.

A quick text goes a long way. “You handled that negotiation cleanly” or “thanks for driving out to meet that family.” Short, direct, noticed.

I close team calls with a round of appreciation. Each person names one colleague who helped them that week. It ends with people, not numbers.

I track the personal side too. If someone’s kid has a ball game or they’re rehabbing a knee, I ask. Those small check-ins show they matter beyond the work.

These actions set a tone where effort gets recognized and people feel they belong.

Sharp Work Deserves Instant Praise

Bennett Maxwell
CEO, Franchise KI

One practice I recommend is tying recognition directly to the growth journey, because that’s what motivates our franchise teams.

For example, we created a visual wall that shows each new location alongside the individuals who helped launch it becomes a living celebration of progress.

Another ritual we use is the “mentor spotlight,” where we honor team members who guided new owners to profitability, awarding them a Growth Catalyst badge.

Employees don’t just feel thanked, they’re given new opportunities for leadership.

If you can blend recognition with career progression, you’ll find people stay more engaged and invested.

Growth Catalysts Earn Leadership Badges

Sandro Kratz
Founder, Tutorbase

Leading a remote SaaS team, I learned that feeling seen often comes from consistency in feedback.

For example, during one product sprint, I highlighted a developer who streamlined onboarding through a clever code update, and simply naming that achievement during our Friday call boosted morale across the board.

Problem-solver shout-outs really pulled me out of jams when team members felt exhausted by deadlines they reminded everyone their creativity mattered.

I also make it a point to send quick Slack notes celebrating milestones, so praise isn’t limited to formal reviews.

My suggestion is to balance structured rituals, like monthly awards, with spontaneous appreciation that feels authentic and timely.

Problem-Solver Shout-Outs Lift Spirits

Brooks Humphreys
Founder, 614 HomeBuyers

I’ve found that people feel seen when their contributions tie back to real impact.

For instance, when one of my project managers handled a tricky tenant situation, I shared the story on our weekly investor call highlighting not just the result but their judgment in handling it.

We sometimes rotate who walks investors through property updates, which gives newer team members a bigger platform.

Recognition, in my view, sticks best when it’s public enough to inspire others but still personal to the individual being recognized.

Investor Spotlights Celebrate Real Impact

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Fostering Civility: The HR Behavior That Builds Positive Work Culture

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Fostering Civility: The HR Behavior That Builds Positive Work Culture

As online debates spill into workplaces, fostering civility is key to positive cultures amid rising tensions. 

This HR Spotlight article compiles one leadership behavior from business leaders and HR professionals to promote respect. 

Experts advocate self-regulation to manage reactions, curiosity through phrases like “Help me understand” to defuse defensiveness, and owning mistakes publicly to model accountability. 

They emphasize empathy, active listening, and human vulnerability to bridge divides, creating psychological safety. 

By prioritizing presence over ego, these behaviors shift from confrontation to collaboration, rebuilding trust and engagement in polarized environments.

Read on!

 Naomi Shammas-King
Lead at Global Employment Platform, Oyster

Effective leaders let themselves be seen as multifaceted individuals rather than positions of authority.

Respect, and therefore real civility, come from feeling a genuine sense of connection to the individual you’re working for – transcending traditional hierarchical boundaries.

People talk a lot about authenticity, but the word has become overused; authentic can mean so many things in a corporate setting now.

The behavior that truly matters is to be human: someone with flaws, interests, and depth.

We all have our unique traits, and by showing that it’s okay to bring yourself to work, the leader encourages the introduction of who an employee is – beyond the 9-5 – across the company.

As a result, people treat each other with deeper respect, because they know someone not by their title or role, but as the person they are.

Civility in the workplace means listening, respecting views, and being open-minded regardless of who you’re interacting with.

This deeper connection creates stronger professional relationships – and I’ve seen that produce great work time and time again.

Authentic Leadership Drives Deeper Respect

Kevin Judge
CEO, iNOBLl

Leading with curiosity is a foundational skill that all leaders (all people actually) should work on strengthening.

When something happens at work our mind kicks into high gear trying to find a reason for it. Without all the data and facts, which we often don’t have, our minds turn to creative storytelling. Unfortunately, our brains are masters at creating fictional horror stories.

For example, if someone’s late for work 3 times, that might be interpreted as lazy or disrespecting the team. Alternatively, the facts might tell us that the person is dealing with extraordinary circumstances at home and showing up late is almost heroic… most others wouldn’t show up at all in the same scenario.

Before letting our brains jump to conclusions, get curious. Ask questions. Assume people have positive intent. Ask them what’s going on.

Most people wake up in the morning wanting to do good.

Curiosity Counters Negative Assumptions

Richard Mews
CEO, Sell With Richard

Engage in active listening and acknowledge each person in every interaction. Listen to your team with genuine attention.

Ask clear questions and recognize their input before you reply. Put away devices when talking. Keep eye contact and repeat what you hear for proper understanding. Follow up on their issues.

Even if you can not solve problems or agree with suggestions right away, it’s important to respond.

This behavior builds psychological safety. Employees feel safe sharing ideas and feedback. They do not fear dismissal.

Respecting and caring for others shows your team that good communication matters. Employees show this behavior with their colleagues.

This builds mutual respect as a key principle. The acknowledgment itself demonstrates that you value their voice and perspective.

This leadership practice changes workplace dynamics. It shows that everyone’s input matters. This builds respect, which spreads across your organization. As a result, it drives positive cultural change.

Active Listening Fosters Psychological Safety

Samantha Reynolds
Account Manager, Helpside

Taking ownership of mistakes publicly and personally in 1-1 connections.

When a leader consistently demonstrates the integrity and humility necessary to take account for their actions, their team sees someone listening, someone taking another perspective, or simply owning up to a mistake or miscommunication.

Then, they see the conversation and effort shift back to the work. How do we come together as a team to accomplish our goal?

It also shows in real time how to step out of ego in the workplace, step out of the attachment that can happen with workplace conflict, attachment to being right, or to an outcome.

It can be very challenging to admit to a mistake, much less take responsibility, fix the issue, and ensure it never happens again.

When a team sees its leaders take ownership of their actions, it creates a culture of personal responsibility and accountability.

Own Mistakes to Model Accountability

Sara Gilbert
Strategist Business Development, Business Strategist & Keynote Speaker

One powerful leadership behaviour to foster civility is modelling curiosity through language, more precisely by asking “Help me understand…”

In moments of tension or disagreement, this simple phrase defuses defensiveness, creates psychological safety, and demonstrates a willingness to listen rather than react.

It shifts the conversation from confrontation to collaboration. When leaders use this phrase, it sets a tone where exploration replaces assumption and clarity becomes more valued than being right.

Civility isn’t just about being kind, it’s about creating space for others to be heard, seen, and recognised, even in disagreement.

Curious Questions Promote Collaboration

Martha A.Burich
Speaker & Author, Yes You Can Raise Happy Responsible Children

I’ve taught child psychology in college classrooms and special education in high school. Now I teach parenting to people who want more peace in their homes. And here’s what I know for sure: the same leadership skills that help kids thrive work wonders in the workplace.

When emotions run high, real leaders don’t power up and bark orders. They stay calm. They listen. They respond with clarity and respect, even when they disagree. That’s what we teach our kids, right? Don’t scream. Don’t be ashamed. Speak up, but do it kindly.

I once worked with a team where tension felt like walking on eggshells. What changed it? One person, a new manager. This leader refused to engage in blame. She stayed grounded and modeled emotional maturity.

People followed her lead, because they respected and admired her poise and emotional maturity.

Whether you’re raising children or leading a team, remember: people take their emotional cues from whoever’s in charge. Be the one who stays steady. Be a good example.

Stay Calm to Set Emotional Tone

Genevieve Piturro
Founder, Genevieve Piturro

Be open about why this situation matters to all involved. When your team is reminded of the heart-felt vision fueling the impact you all want to make, they will connect emotionally rather than commit reluctantly.

Listen between the lines. Often, what’s not said is more important to the team’s camaraderie. Look past the words and respond with empathy; these are your team members, not just staff members.

Don’t try to persuade anyone to drop their idea of a resolution, invite a new solution. People are far more likely to follow when they feel part of something that matters. When you make it about us, their hearts and actions follow.

Invite Solutions for Shared Commitment

Evan White
Chief Marketing Officer, ERIN

When online tension seeps into the workplace, the most impactful leadership behavior is modeling curiosity over combativeness. Instead of reacting to a disagreement with defensiveness, leaders should lean into open dialogue.

Ask questions. Invite perspectives. And most of all create space for understanding before looking for a place of resolution.

Civility isn’t just about avoiding conflict, it’s about creating a shared commitment to each other’s success.

Curiosity Drives Understanding

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