Workplace Conflicts: Leadership Tips for a Positive Work Culture
Online arguments no longer stay online—they leak into Slack threads, meeting rooms, and water-cooler chats, turning differing opinions into outright tension.
In a world where a single heated comment can fracture team trust, what single leadership behavior can pull workplaces back from the brink and rebuild civility?
In this HR Spotlight roundup, we asked executives, pastors, veterinarians, communication strategists, and organizational coaches one focused question: “As digital discord spills into daily work, what’s the one leadership move you swear by to keep culture respectful and productive?”
Their answers converge on a surprising truth: civility isn’t enforced with new rules or mandatory training.
It’s modeled, moment by moment, through behaviors like curiosity-driven questions, story-driven listening, managerial courage, and even protecting a morning self-care ritual.
These leaders prove that one consistent habit from the top can ripple outward, turning potential conflicts into stronger connections.
Read on!
Cathy Dolan Schweitzer
President, Health Well Done
If I had to identify the single most important leadership behavior, it would be maintaining a morning
ritual of self-care: exercise and meditation.
These combined intentional practices of mindfulness and Being grateful allows a leader to be more positive and grounded.
When leaders protect their morning routine, they’re better equipped to manage stress and respond thoughtfully than reactively throughout the day.
This is a powerful example of how personal habits directly impact professional behavior that
ripples into team culture.
The path to a civil, thriving workplace culture begins with one leader’s commitment to their morning ritual.
When we recognize that our personal wellness directly impacts our professional effectiveness, we unlock the power to transform not just ourselves, but our entire organizational ecosystem—one mindful morning at a time.
Morning Ritual Saves the Day
Dr. Meg Adams
Co-Founder, Homeplace Creative
One of the most powerful leadership behaviors to foster civility is story-driven listening.
When leaders ask thoughtful questions and create space for team members to share their perspectives, they signal that people matter.
This behavior helps to humanize the workplace, reduce polarization, and deepen mutual understanding.
Story-driven listening isn’t passive; it’s an intentional act of empathy. Story-driven listening requires leaders to slow down, withhold judgment, and reflect on what they hear.
When practiced consistently, it diffuses tension, increases psychological safety, and encourages open dialogue, even when people disagree.
In short, leaders who lead with listening cultivate cultures where people feel seen and respected, which is the foundation of civility.
Listen to Their Story First
Dr. L. Todd Thomas
Associate Academic Dean, Devos Northwood
Demonstrating humility and curiosity can be a powerful leadership behavior to support a culture of civility.
When workplace tension and conflict mirrors the polarized tone we see online, leaders who ask questions, rather than take positions or make assumptions, can immediately set a different tone.
For example, if two employees clash over a political issue that surfaced on a company’s Slack channel, a leader might step in not to shut it down, but to inquire about the thought process behind the viewpoint.
That curiosity de-escalates emotion and encourages reflection.
When the leader also shows humility, admitting to having to rethink her or his own stance at times, it models openness and self-awareness.
This approach reframes conflict as a chance to understand rather than to win, and provides a model of what civil disagreement can look like.
Humility Disarms Heated Debates
Managerial courage is the leadership behaviour I’d recommend every time.
As online discourse spills into the workplace, civility needs to be modelled—and protected. Leaders should be having regular one-on-one conversations with their team, using those moments to call in behaviour that’s misaligned with company values and open the door for reflection and growth.
But there are also times when it’s necessary to call out and nip things in the bud, right in the moment—especially when behaviour risks harming team dynamics or psychological safety.
Avoiding discomfort might feel easier in the short term, but it erodes trust and clarity over time. Culture is shaped by what leaders choose to address—and what they choose to ignore.
Courage Calls Out Toxicity Fast
R. Karl Hebenstreit
Organization Development Consultant, Performandfunction
Practicing, role modeling, and rewarding emotional intelligence in general, and empathy, specifically, is the key to fostering civility in the workplace and the world.
Once we realize that we don’t see the world the way everyone else does, and that our perspective is just a minute lens into reality, we can then become more open to the perspectives, worldviews, and ideas of others.
True empathy for others’ lived experiences and learned perspectives, and incorporating/integrating them into our own worldviews and practices, results in a more inclusive, psychologically-safe environment that fosters real understanding and honoring of others’ diverse perspectives, respect and civility, and innovation … and, fortuitously, also produces optimum business results.
Empathy Is the Ultimate Model
Dr. Misty D. Freeman
Founder, Mocha Sprout
One powerful leadership behavior that fosters civility at work is inclusive decision-making.
When leaders intentionally invite diverse voices into the decision-making process, especially early on, they signal that every perspective holds value.
This cultivates a culture where respect is not just encouraged but expected. Inclusive decision-making reduces workplace tension by addressing the root causes of disengagement.
These causes are usually invisibility, exclusion, and lack of psychological safety.
It strengthens trust and empathy among teams while modeling how to navigate disagreement with dignity.
In my work at Mocha Sprout, I’ve seen that belonging and innovation thrive when people feel seen, heard, and empowered to shape outcomes.
We have to remember that civility isn’t a byproduct but a behavior that is practiced daily.
Layoff Is Forced Margin for Clarity
Jacquelin Connelly
BFA, CPHR, Certified Organizational Coach, Coaching That Belongs
One leadership behavior that can interrupt, often even prevent, conflict in the workplace is to take a coach approach.
Leaders who lead with curiosity instead of control or correction foster more civility.
That might sound like: “What’s important about this to you?” or “What would a constructive conversation look like here?”.
Asking thoughtful, open-ended questions invites reflection over reaction. It encourages team members to pause, think, and respond with intention rather than impulse.
This approach also allows self-awareness and agency of team members to show up because they’re being invited to support finding a solution.
Over time, this approach models psychological safety, and when people feel safe enough to stay in conversation, they’re far more likely to stay kind.
Coach Questions Defuse Conflict
Active listening is a cornerstone of workplace civility, yet it remains one of the most underdeveloped & undervalued leadership skills.
In today’s workplaces, constant notifications and competing demands often pull our attention away from colleagues, whether they’re in front of us in person or on a screen.
This distraction can unintentionally signal that their presence & input are less significant than our devices or to-do lists, and we’re missing more than half of their communication.
Elevating civility begins with a conscious commitment to be fully present in every interaction. This means silencing distractions & focusing on the whole person: their words, tone, & non-verbal cues.
When we truly listen, we demonstrate respect, foster trust, & create a culture where everyone feels seen, heard, &valued.
Prioritizing attentive, empathetic listening sets a standard for respectful interactions.
This simple shift can transform workplace dynamics, reduce misunderstandings, & elevate the overall sense of civility & collaboration.
Full Presence Beats Notifications
Jeff Bogue
Senior Pastor, Grace Church & President, Buildmomentum
Dropped: Conflict avoidance and hoping issues would resolve themselves.
Early in my pastoral leadership, I’d let team tensions simmer rather than address them directly.
Adopted: Immediate curiosity-driven conversations when I sense workplace friction.
At Grace Church with our 150+ staff across eight campuses, I now approach conflicts by asking genuine questions like “Help me understand your perspective” rather than making assumptions or taking sides.
The change was remarkable. Our staff turnover dropped significantly, and cross-campus collaboration improved dramatically.
When our Philadelphia and Los Angeles Urban Centers faced communication breakdowns last year, this approach helped us resolve issues in days rather than months.
The key insight: curiosity disarms defensiveness faster than any other leadership tool. When people feel heard before being corrected, they’re exponentially more likely to find common ground.
Sometimes the most civil thing you can do is admit you don’t have all the answers.
Curious Now, Drama Gone Tomorrow
The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.
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