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Fostering Civility: The HR Behavior That Builds Positive Work Culture

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Fostering Civility: The HR Behavior That Builds Positive Work Culture

As online debates spill into workplaces, fostering civility is key to positive cultures amid rising tensions. 

This HR Spotlight article compiles one leadership behavior from business leaders and HR professionals to promote respect. 

Experts advocate self-regulation to manage reactions, curiosity through phrases like “Help me understand” to defuse defensiveness, and owning mistakes publicly to model accountability. 

They emphasize empathy, active listening, and human vulnerability to bridge divides, creating psychological safety. 

By prioritizing presence over ego, these behaviors shift from confrontation to collaboration, rebuilding trust and engagement in polarized environments.

Read on!

 Naomi Shammas-King
Lead at Global Employment Platform, Oyster

Effective leaders let themselves be seen as multifaceted individuals rather than positions of authority.

Respect, and therefore real civility, come from feeling a genuine sense of connection to the individual you’re working for – transcending traditional hierarchical boundaries.

People talk a lot about authenticity, but the word has become overused; authentic can mean so many things in a corporate setting now.

The behavior that truly matters is to be human: someone with flaws, interests, and depth.

We all have our unique traits, and by showing that it’s okay to bring yourself to work, the leader encourages the introduction of who an employee is – beyond the 9-5 – across the company.

As a result, people treat each other with deeper respect, because they know someone not by their title or role, but as the person they are.

Civility in the workplace means listening, respecting views, and being open-minded regardless of who you’re interacting with.

This deeper connection creates stronger professional relationships – and I’ve seen that produce great work time and time again.

Authentic Leadership Drives Deeper Respect

Kevin Judge
CEO, iNOBLl

Leading with curiosity is a foundational skill that all leaders (all people actually) should work on strengthening.

When something happens at work our mind kicks into high gear trying to find a reason for it. Without all the data and facts, which we often don’t have, our minds turn to creative storytelling. Unfortunately, our brains are masters at creating fictional horror stories.

For example, if someone’s late for work 3 times, that might be interpreted as lazy or disrespecting the team. Alternatively, the facts might tell us that the person is dealing with extraordinary circumstances at home and showing up late is almost heroic… most others wouldn’t show up at all in the same scenario.

Before letting our brains jump to conclusions, get curious. Ask questions. Assume people have positive intent. Ask them what’s going on.

Most people wake up in the morning wanting to do good.

Curiosity Counters Negative Assumptions

Richard Mews
CEO, Sell With Richard

Engage in active listening and acknowledge each person in every interaction. Listen to your team with genuine attention.

Ask clear questions and recognize their input before you reply. Put away devices when talking. Keep eye contact and repeat what you hear for proper understanding. Follow up on their issues.

Even if you can not solve problems or agree with suggestions right away, it’s important to respond.

This behavior builds psychological safety. Employees feel safe sharing ideas and feedback. They do not fear dismissal.

Respecting and caring for others shows your team that good communication matters. Employees show this behavior with their colleagues.

This builds mutual respect as a key principle. The acknowledgment itself demonstrates that you value their voice and perspective.

This leadership practice changes workplace dynamics. It shows that everyone’s input matters. This builds respect, which spreads across your organization. As a result, it drives positive cultural change.

Active Listening Fosters Psychological Safety

Samantha Reynolds
Account Manager, Helpside

Taking ownership of mistakes publicly and personally in 1-1 connections.

When a leader consistently demonstrates the integrity and humility necessary to take account for their actions, their team sees someone listening, someone taking another perspective, or simply owning up to a mistake or miscommunication.

Then, they see the conversation and effort shift back to the work. How do we come together as a team to accomplish our goal?

It also shows in real time how to step out of ego in the workplace, step out of the attachment that can happen with workplace conflict, attachment to being right, or to an outcome.

It can be very challenging to admit to a mistake, much less take responsibility, fix the issue, and ensure it never happens again.

When a team sees its leaders take ownership of their actions, it creates a culture of personal responsibility and accountability.

Own Mistakes to Model Accountability

Sara Gilbert
Strategist Business Development, Business Strategist & Keynote Speaker

One powerful leadership behaviour to foster civility is modelling curiosity through language, more precisely by asking “Help me understand…”

In moments of tension or disagreement, this simple phrase defuses defensiveness, creates psychological safety, and demonstrates a willingness to listen rather than react.

It shifts the conversation from confrontation to collaboration. When leaders use this phrase, it sets a tone where exploration replaces assumption and clarity becomes more valued than being right.

Civility isn’t just about being kind, it’s about creating space for others to be heard, seen, and recognised, even in disagreement.

Curious Questions Promote Collaboration

Martha A.Burich
Speaker & Author, Yes You Can Raise Happy Responsible Children

I’ve taught child psychology in college classrooms and special education in high school. Now I teach parenting to people who want more peace in their homes. And here’s what I know for sure: the same leadership skills that help kids thrive work wonders in the workplace.

When emotions run high, real leaders don’t power up and bark orders. They stay calm. They listen. They respond with clarity and respect, even when they disagree. That’s what we teach our kids, right? Don’t scream. Don’t be ashamed. Speak up, but do it kindly.

I once worked with a team where tension felt like walking on eggshells. What changed it? One person, a new manager. This leader refused to engage in blame. She stayed grounded and modeled emotional maturity.

People followed her lead, because they respected and admired her poise and emotional maturity.

Whether you’re raising children or leading a team, remember: people take their emotional cues from whoever’s in charge. Be the one who stays steady. Be a good example.

Stay Calm to Set Emotional Tone

Genevieve Piturro
Founder, Genevieve Piturro

Be open about why this situation matters to all involved. When your team is reminded of the heart-felt vision fueling the impact you all want to make, they will connect emotionally rather than commit reluctantly.

Listen between the lines. Often, what’s not said is more important to the team’s camaraderie. Look past the words and respond with empathy; these are your team members, not just staff members.

Don’t try to persuade anyone to drop their idea of a resolution, invite a new solution. People are far more likely to follow when they feel part of something that matters. When you make it about us, their hearts and actions follow.

Invite Solutions for Shared Commitment

Evan White
Chief Marketing Officer, ERIN

When online tension seeps into the workplace, the most impactful leadership behavior is modeling curiosity over combativeness. Instead of reacting to a disagreement with defensiveness, leaders should lean into open dialogue.

Ask questions. Invite perspectives. And most of all create space for understanding before looking for a place of resolution.

Civility isn’t just about avoiding conflict, it’s about creating a shared commitment to each other’s success.

Curiosity Drives Understanding

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Civility in Action: An HR Leader’s Key to a Positive Workplace

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Civility in Action: An HR Leader’s Key to a Positive Workplace

In an era where online debates often spill into workplace tensions, fostering a culture of civility is essential for team cohesion. 

This HR Spotlight article compiles insights from business leaders and HR professionals on one leadership behavior to promote a positive work culture driven by civility. 

Experts emphasize modeling respectful communication, such as empathetic listening, setting clear ground rules, and using humor to defuse conflicts. They advocate creating structured forums for open dialogue and prioritizing face-to-face or video interactions to maintain trust. 

These behaviors ensure disagreements remain productive, reducing resentment and enhancing collaboration, ultimately building a workplace where employees feel valued and respected despite external or internal conflicts. 

Read on!

Amy P. Castro
President, Amy Castro

Set clear ground rules for communication and model them consistently. Too often, leaders assume everyone shares the same definition of “respect,” but that is rarely true.

Take time to clarify what respectful disagreement looks like for your team: no interruptions, ask clarifying questions before responding, address issues and behavior rather than attacking people, and focus on solutions instead of blame.

As a communication expert with more than 20 years of experience, I have seen that leaders who clearly define, model, and consistently reinforce these expectations create genuine psychological safety for their team. This approach ensures everyone knows what is expected and helps them feel confident sharing ideas without fear of personal attacks or escalating drama.

It keeps discussions productive, collaborative, and focused on problem-solving, all of which support a positive and truly respectful workplace culture.

Establish and Enforce Clear Ground Rules

Alanna Fincke
Executive Director Workforce Development, meQuilibrium

One of the most critical leadership behaviors that fosters a positive work culture, one driven by civility, is promoting open and respectful communication.

It may sound pat or obvious, but hear me out on why and how. It plays a powerful role—as do the leaders who practice it—in shifting team and organizational culture, even in the face of workplace conflict and the near constant stress from uncertainty and ongoing change.

Ultimately, open and respectful communication creates a culture of psychological safety at the foundation, and that’s what we need to fight the overwhelming tides of pessimism, uncertainty, and disengagement we’re seeing in the workplace.

Here are some specific suggestions on how to implement open and respectful communication:

Model It: As a leader, it starts with you. Model respectful and civil communication in your interactions. Avoid using inflammatory language, personal attacks, or dismissive behavior, even when (and especially when) disagreements arise.

Encourage Open Dialogue and a Range of Viewpoints: Create an environment where employees feel safe to express their views and opinions without fear of repercussions. Actively listen to different perspectives and acknowledge valid points, even if you disagree.

Provide Training: Effective and respectful communication is a practice and doesn’t always come naturally. However, it can absolutely be learned! Offer training or workshops on effective communication, conflict resolution, and fostering a respectful workplace culture. This is a critical piece in employees developing the skills to engage in constructive dialogue and handle disagreements.

Address Issues Promptly: When conflicts or uncivil behavior arise, address them promptly. It’s tempting to avoid it in the short term, but in the long term, it only reinforces just the behaviors we’re trying to avoid. Encourage open and honest discussions to understand the root causes and work towards resolution in a respectful manner.

Celebrate and Recognize the Good Stuff: Acknowledge and celebrate times when employees demonstrate communication, collaboration, or conflict resolution skills. A simple “great job collaborating on this” can be enough. This reinforces the desired behaviors and encourages others to follow suit.”

Open Communication Builds Psychological Safety

Kaomi Joy Taylor
Founder & Chief Namiac, The Museum of Names

Name Fluency is a deceptively simple leadership behavior that can radically improve workplace civility. It’s not just about pronunciation — it’s about care.

Names are deeply tied to identity, culture, and belonging. Everyone has one – and they’re used daily in the workplace in countless ways. So mishandling them erodes trust fast. But visibly demonstrating care can help heal workplace divisions and rapidly grow civility and respect.

A Name Fluent leader:

Models dignity in how names are spoken and written in personal interactions.

Works to remember, spell, and pronounce names correctly and checks when unsure.

Sets a tone that discourages jokes, stereotypes, and sloppiness around names.

Adjusts systems to accommodate longer, non-Western, and atypical names.

Ask yourself: can you remember a time when your own name was omitted or mocked? How did it feel? That’s why anytime leaders handle names with care, they send a powerful message: You matter here. It’s not about perfection — it’s about people.

Name Fluency Enhances Workplace Civility

Donald Thompson
CEO & Executive Advisor, Donald Thompson

In today’s polarized environment, where online debates can spill into Slack threads and strategy meetings, leaders must go beyond surface-level tolerance. They must become stewards of psychological safety. That begins not with reacting, but with listening.

Empathetic listening signals to your team that you value understanding over judgment. When leaders show genuine curiosity, especially with viewpoints different from their own, they send a powerful message: disagreement doesn’t equal disrespect. This message sets the tone for everyone else.

At a time when many employees feel overlooked or dismissed, your attention becomes a form of leadership capital. It costs nothing, but pays off in trust, engagement, and collaboration.

Teams that feel heard outperform those that feel silenced.

Civility creates a workplace where people feel safe enough to speak up and strong enough to grow together.

Empathetic Listening Promotes Team Trust

Rhett Power
CEO & Co-founder, Accountability Inc

Leadership Behavior: Set the Standard Through Micro-Moments of Respect

Civility isn’t built through grand gestures—it’s shaped in the small, everyday interactions leaders have with their teams.

One powerful behavior is using micro-moments of respect: greeting colleagues by name, acknowledging contributions publicly, giving credit generously, and showing appreciation consistently. These seemingly minor acts reinforce a culture of value and dignity. When tensions rise—whether sparked by online debates or internal disagreements—people are more likely to stay grounded and respectful if those around them model basic human decency.

Leaders set the emotional tone. If they respond to conflict with composure, kindness, and fairness, their teams are more likely to follow. In polarized times, civility must be intentional, and it starts with small moments done well.

Micro-Moments of Respect Set Tone

Joanna Lovering
Founder, Copper + Rise

Want to foster civility at work? Start with your executive presence.

When online arguments start creeping into team dynamics, it’s easy for things to get tense, fast. But leaders with real executive presence don’t take the bait. They stay grounded, speak with clarity, and model respect, even when conversations get heated.

This isn’t about avoiding tough topics. It’s about how you show up when they surface. Do you raise your voice or raise the bar? Do you shut people down or hold the space with calm authority?

Your presence sets the tone. When you model composure, clarity, and mutual respect, others follow. That’s how you build a culture where disagreement doesn’t have to mean disconnection.

Executive Presence Models Civil Discourse

Jared Pope
CEO & Co-Founder, Work Shield

Today, disagreement doesn’t stop at the screen. It follows people into the office. Social media has made it easy to speak without filters.

People often say things online they’d never say to someone face-to-face. That boldness might feel harmless behind a screen, but when those comments carry into the workplace, whether through side conversations, Slack threads, or team meetings, they can quickly erode trust and collaboration.

Here’s a simple benchmark: if you wouldn’t say it to someone directly in a one-on-one conversation with respect and accountability, it probably doesn’t belong in a workplace discussion.

When something crosses the line online, leaders can’t afford to ignore it. A calm, direct check-in like “I saw what you posted. Can we talk about how that’s impacting the team?” can defuse tension before it festers. Just as important, modeling what it looks like to listen without judgment while still holding clear boundaries shows others how to follow suit.

Civility isn’t about being quiet or agreeable. It’s about showing up with clarity, curiosity, and self-control. Even when emotions run high. In today’s climate, leadership means knowing how to bring conversations back to common ground.”

Direct Check-Ins Defuse Online Tensions

Shaun Carse
Director, Trackershop

What under-appreciated technique for teaching politeness? The giving of ego the afternoon off.

At Trackershop, we receive this: if some form of dispute occurs, the last thing the world’ s best leader wants to do is attempt to turn the dispute to some form of power play.

What we do is attempt to be the “calm in the group chat”—the listener, the tension breaker with the smallest dad joke (“Alright, don’t throw the stapler—we’re all one team”), and return the communication to the unified goals.

Civility is not accommodating to the majority—it’s to the point where one doesn’t even feel the obligation to disagree at all, for one might be run over in the hallway or stared down in the break room at lunchtime.

If your workers see you resolve conflict humorously, humbly, and in reverence, they’ll do the same. Absolutely, less awkward silences in the break room.

Humor Calms Conflict, Unifies Teams

David Greiner
Founder & Attorney, Greiner Law Corp

Running both a law firm and Greiner Buick GMC for years taught me one crucial leadership behavior: create structured forums for open dialogue before conflicts escalate. When I served as Chairman of the Victor Valley Chamber of Commerce, I instituted monthly “straight talk” sessions where board members could voice concerns directly without formal procedures.

The breakthrough came when I co-founded the High Desert Senior Forum in 2009, operating it from my dealership showroom. We hosted over 100 meetings covering everything from congressional updates to gardening tips. The key was establishing clear ground rules upfront—everyone gets heard, but personal attacks weren’t tolerated.

At my dealership, this translated to weekly department head meetings where service, sales, and finance could air grievances openly. Instead of letting tensions simmer between departments, we addressed issues immediately. This approach helped us win multiple Best in the Desert awards for customer service.

The pattern I’ve seen in both business and legal practice is simple: give people a regular, structured outlet to be heard, and workplace conflicts rarely reach the boiling point.

Structured Forums Prevent Conflict Escalation

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

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The Race for Skills: Paying the Cost for Ignoring Creativity

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The Race for Skills: Paying the Cost for Ignoring Creativity

As businesses prioritize technical skills, sidelining creativity and emotional intelligence (EI) risks stifling innovation and workplace cohesion. 

This HR Spotlight article gathers insights from business leaders and HR professionals on the costs of this imbalance. 

From diminished human connection to stunted innovation and poor team dynamics, these experts highlight how neglecting creativity and EI undermines long-term success. 

They share strategies like fostering empathy in hiring and integrating creative training to restore balance, offering actionable solutions to build collaborative, innovative teams that resonate with customers and employees alike in a tech-driven world.

Read on!

Jen Stamulis
Director of Business Development & Brand Management, Go Elastic

The biggest cost I’ve seen is brands losing their ability to connect with real humans.

At Spectrum, we worked with ESPN and NFL on campaigns that had all the technical bells and whistles, but the ones that drove actual revenue growth were those that tapped into genuine fan emotions and stories.

During my time at Elasticity, I’ve watched companies obsess over attribution models and programmatic optimization while completely missing why their customers actually care about their products. We had a client who could tell you the exact cost-per-click across 47 different touchpoints but couldn’t explain why anyone would choose their brand over a competitor.

The American Mustache Institute project taught me that building authentic communities around seemingly ridiculous ideas can fundamentally change careers and businesses. That happened because we focused on creating something people genuinely connected with, not because we had the most sophisticated analytics dashboard.

Technical skills get you in the room, but creativity and emotional intelligence are what make people want to buy from you, work with you, and remember you exist.

Creativity and Empathy Drive Business Growth

Marin Cristian Ovidiu
CEO, OnlineGames

The biggest cost of sidelining creativity and emotional intelligence in favor of pure technical expertise is short-sighted problem solving.

You end up with solutions that work but don’t resonate. In game development, we’ve seen that a technically flawless product can still fail if it lacks emotional appeal, user empathy, or narrative cohesion.

Emotional intelligence drives collaboration, leadership, and adaptability, skills that become more valuable as teams scale and problems grow in complexity.

Creativity, meanwhile, fuels innovation and user-centric design. Without these, you build tools no one wants to use, or worse, create environments where talent burns out.

The future belongs to teams who can code and connect, who can optimize performance without losing the human touch. Pure technical output is just the start. Real impact comes from understanding people.

Technical Skills Without Empathy Fall Short

Mark Niemann
CEO & Co-Founder, Mein Office

The increasing emphasis on technical expertise, while essential in a digital-first age, often comes at the expense of creativity and emotional intelligence (EI)—two attributes essential for sustainable business growth:

Prioritizing technical skill alone can stifle innovation. Creative thinking brings unique solutions and adaptability—critical factors for maintaining competitive advantage.

Sidelining EI negatively impacts team dynamics. Empathy, communication, and self-awareness are fundamental to building strong, resilient workplace cultures.

Leadership suffers in environments lacking EI. A technically sound leader who cannot inspire or relate to their team will struggle to retain talent.

From my experience in marketing and sales across industries, true business breakthroughs happen when technical skills are enhanced—not replaced—by creativity and empathy.

Technical Skills Need Creativity and Empathy

Eugene Leow Zhao Wei
Director, Marketing Agency

Prioritising technical skill over creativity and emotional intelligence comes at a cost that’s easy to overlook: teams that deliver, but don’t resonate.

I’ve worked with brilliant developers and marketers who could solve any problem, but struggled to understand client fear, hesitation, or shifting expectations. Without empathy and creative framing, even the best solution feels cold or confusing.

Creativity isn’t just for aesthetics. It’s how you reframe a pitch, build buy-in, and solve non-linear problems.

Emotional intelligence is how you prevent misalignment before it snowballs. Strip those out and you get efficient outputs that fall flat with humans. In business, that disconnect is expensive.

The best work we’ve shipped didn’t just tick technical boxes. It moved people and that only happens when EQ and creativity sit at the table too.

Technical Skills Without Empathy Fall Flat

David Ciccarelli
Founder & CEO, Lake

There’s no doubt technical skills matter—but when companies sideline creativity and emotional intelligence (EI), they trade long-term resilience for short-term precision.

I’ve seen this firsthand as a 3X founder: technical chops help build the product, but the product or even a feature begins with the founder or product manager identifying something the market needs. Creativity commences the process.

Creativity drives innovation—new features, new niche markets, new ways of thinking.

Emotional intelligence, meanwhile, fuels collaboration, empathy, and trust—traits that galvanize teams and clearly, tech alone can’t replicate.

When we undervalue those, we risk building brilliant systems that people don’t feel connected to. And in a world of increasing automation, empathy and human-centered thinking is more valuable—not less.

Creativity and EQ Drive Long-Term Resilience

Dr. Kirk Adams
Disability Inclusion Strategist & Speaker, Innovative Impact LLC

In the rush to prioritize technical skills, sidelining creativity and emotional intelligence comes at a steep cost. Especially when it leads to overlooking the value of disability inclusion.

People with disabilities, like me, develop profound emotional intelligence and creative problem-solving abilities out of necessity.

Navigating a world not built with us in mind requires resilience, adaptability, and a deep capacity for empathy. We bring honed listening, communication, and planning skills, strengthened by the lived experience of overcoming barriers, often with the aid of assistive technology and accessibility tools.

When organizations cut corners on accommodations or accessibility, they miss out on this rich, untapped talent.

The short-term gain in productivity is far outweighed by the long-term loss of innovation, team cohesion, and insight.

A truly inclusive culture that values the whole person, technical skills and human strengths, fuels sustainable success.

Creativity and emotional intelligence aren’t optional extras; they’re competitive advantages.

Disability Inclusion Fuels Innovation

Wynter Johnson
Founder & CEO, Caily

This isn’t the only dimension you need to worry about here, but I like to think about these tradeoffs in terms of efficiency versus flexibility.

People with the right set of technical skills will quickly, efficiently get work done within their domain, often with minimal outside input.

The flipside of this is that they often struggle to communicate, collaborate, and adapt well, especially when it comes to working with other departments.

People who are creative and emotionally intelligent will be great at working with others and rolling with changes, but they may struggle when asked to lock in on a specific technical task.

Ultimately, a good team needs both skill sets to succeed.

Balance Efficiency and Flexibility for Success

Ross Hackerson
Relationship Coach & Retreat Leader, An Affair of the Heart

In 40 years of helping couples reconnect, I’ve seen the devastating cost of prioritizing technical problem-solving over emotional intelligence. Relationships collapse when partners treat each other like engineering problems to be fixed rather than humans to be understood.

At my retreat center “An Affair of the Heart,” I work with highly successful professionals—doctors, lawyers, engineers—whose marriages are crumbling despite their technical brilliance. They’ve mastered complex systems but can’t decode their partner’s emotional needs. One surgeon could perform intricate procedures but couldn’t recognize when his wife needed comfort instead of solutions.

The pattern is clear: technical skills get you hired, but emotional intelligence keeps relationships alive.

In my intensive retreats, we see 70% of couples reconnect when they learn to read emotional cues and respond with empathy rather than logic.

The cost of sidelining emotional intelligence isn’t just workplace dysfunction—it’s broken families, failed partnerships, and human isolation.

Emotional Intelligence is the Key to Relationships

Erinn Everhart
Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, Every Heart Dreams Counseling

The biggest cost is emotional loneliness, people becoming disconnected from authentic human connection.

In my practice, I see tech-skilled professionals who excel at their jobs but struggle with meaningful relationships because they’ve never learned to be vulnerable or emotionally present.

I had a client who was a brilliant software engineer but couldn’t maintain friendships or romantic relationships. He’d been so focused on technical skills that he’d never developed the ability to share his true self or read emotional cues. When conflicts arose, he’d “ghost” people rather than have difficult conversations – treating relationships like debugging code.

The irony is that emotional intelligence drives technical success too.

Teams with emotionally intelligent leaders show better collaboration and innovation. When we only reward technical expertise, we create workplaces full of people who can’t communicate authentically or handle the vulnerability required for creative problem-solving.

I’ve seen companies lose their best talent not because of technical issues, but because managers couldn’t create psychologically safe environments where people felt heard and valued.

Technical Success Can Mask Emotional Loneliness

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What HR and Leaders Look for to Ensure Remote Teams Thrive

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What HR and Leaders Look for to Ensure Remote Teams Thrive

By Stanley Anto, Chief Editor, HRSpotlight.com

The past few years have felt like one huge, involuntary experiment in remote work. The initial shock has faded, but here’s the question many of us are still figuring out: How do we, as leaders, truly know if our teams are not just getting by, but actually thriving?

For a long time, the instinct was to keep an eye on every move—video calls, chat activity, login hours. The thinking was simple: if you can’t see your team, are they working at all?

But as we’ve all gained experience, a new truth has emerged: the most effective remote teams aren’t built on surveillance. They’re built on trust, clear communication, and focusing on results, not hours logged. It isn’t about dashboards; it’s about a leadership mindset that believes professionals will do their work well.

So what does this new style of leadership actually look like? I spoke with leaders who have mastered it. Their key insight: focus on outcomes, not on activity, and watch for real signals of engagement rather than digital presence.

The old model was all about clock-watching. Were people logged in? Did they hit their eight hours? But anyone who’s worked remotely knows that hours don’t equal productivity. You could be “online” for eight hours but accomplish very little.

Top remote managers have moved on. They judge success by the final product, not by when or how it was made.

Edward Hones, an employment lawyer and founder of Hones Law PLLC, says it best: “We don’t rely on invasive monitoring to measure remote team effectiveness. We focus on outcome-based KPIs and the timely delivery of high-quality work.”

In Edward’s world, it’s the quality and timeliness of deliverables, whether drafting legal memos or managing cases, that count. This breaks through the noise of digital footprints and focuses on what actually moves the business forward.

But it’s not just about outputs. Edward also pointed out a vital human element: engagement. “A big part of success is responsiveness. Team members who quickly reply to internal questions or client needs tend to be more engaged. They raise red flags early, ask good questions, and take meaningful part in meetings.”

Engaged employees are proactive. They don’t wait to be told what to do. Their communication becomes a clear sign that they’re not just working, but truly invested.

From Hours Logged to Outcomes Delivered

Great teams share a common mission. When work is spread out, informal watercooler chats fade away. Some leaders find that a well-chosen business metric becomes their team’s rallying point.

Gunnar Blakeway-Walen, Marketing Manager at The Heron, Edgewater, explains: “Our conversion rate from marketing leads to signed leases became our key remote team KPI. I stopped tracking hours and started obsessing over this because it demanded perfect coordination between marketing, leasing, and operations.”

When conversion dips, the whole team feels it. They rally to find the issue—whether lead quality is down or follow-ups are slow.

That kind of shared accountability removes the need for micromanagement. The metric drives productivity and collaboration naturally.

Shared, Measurable Goals Unite Teams

Beyond KPIs, consistency matters. Gary Harutyunyan, CEO of SleepyBaby, who manages 28 remote employees across states, discovered that “consistent delivery timelines are the most reliable remote team indicator.”

If a team meets deadlines reliably, you know they’re productive. This isn’t about being wired to the clock 24/7. It’s about honoring commitments—and that means both quality and timeliness.

For teams that do more than just meet expectations, Dhawal Shah, Co-Founder of 2Stallions Digital Marketing, looks for continuous improvement.

He shared, “I track how fast work gets done and watch whether my team improves. Completing tasks quicker while maintaining or improving quality shows they’re gaining mastery and efficiency.”

This kind of progress tracking isn’t surveillance. It celebrates growth and pushes mastery, which fuels long-term success.

Productivity Shows in Consistency and Growth

If you want a roadmap for managing remote teams in 2025, here it is:

– Build a culture of trust. Treat your employees like professionals who can manage their time and workload.

– Set clear, outcome-driven goals and metrics that everyone understands and supports. This could be a shared business KPI or a simple weekly deliverable checklist.

– Keep an eye out for genuine engagement—how quickly your team responds, how proactive they are, and whether you see steady improvement.

By shifting away from surveillance and towards these principles, your remote teams will be more productive, innovative, and resilient.

In our evolving work world, leadership isn’t about watching every keystroke. It’s about empowering people. When you focus on trust, shared purpose, and continuous growth, you build teams that don’t just survive remotely—they thrive.

What Should Leaders Focus on Today?

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Cooling Workplace Tensions: HR-Driven Leadership Strategies

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Cooling Workplace Tensions: HR-Driven Leadership Strategies

As online debates spill into workplace tensions, cultivating a culture of civility is critical for organizational success. 

This HR Spotlight article gathers insights from business leaders and HR professionals on one key leadership behavior to promote a positive work environment rooted in respect. 

From modeling constructive curiosity to leading with empathy and accountability, these experts share strategies that transform conflict into collaboration. 

Their approaches emphasize safe spaces for dialogue, proactive problem-solving, and inclusive communication, offering actionable lessons for leaders to foster civility, enhance team cohesion, and drive sustainable growth in today’s dynamic workplaces.

Read on!

Marin Cristian Ovidiu
CEO, Online Games

One leadership behavior I rely on to promote civility is modeling respectful disagreement in public.

In a remote team of creatives, developers, and marketers, ideas will clash—and that’s healthy. But the tone and transparency of how I respond to pushback set the standard.

When I calmly acknowledge differing views and ask clarifying questions instead of reacting defensively, it signals that disagreement isn’t conflict—it’s collaboration.

I also avoid private correction for public debates; instead, I treat those moments as opportunities to show what respectful discourse looks like in real time. This has created a team dynamic where people feel safe sharing ideas, knowing they won’t be shut down or shamed.

In today’s digital-first workplace, civility isn’t just about being nice—it’s about showing emotional control and leading with curiosity instead of ego.

Model Respectful Disagreement for Civility

Josh Qian
COO & Co-Founder, Best Online Cabinets

One effective leadership behavior for nurturing a positive work culture is to prioritize and model accountability.

When leaders take responsibility for their actions and decisions, they set a powerful example for the entire team.

By fostering a culture where accountability is valued, team members are more likely to own their roles and contributions, leading to higher levels of engagement and collaboration. When everyone feels accountable for their part in the team’s success, it reduces blame-shifting and defensiveness, which can often escalate conflicts.

Encouraging regular feedback, both giving and receiving, reinforces this culture of accountability. It helps create an environment where individuals feel empowered to speak up and share their perspectives, ultimately leading to more constructive discussions and a stronger sense of team cohesion.

Modeling Accountability Builds a Better Culture

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin
Certified Imago Therapist & Advanced Clinician, The Marriage Restoration Project

The one behavior which is extremely helpful is curiosity.

If an employee is disruptive, causing conflict, or underperforming, instead of rebuking or criticizing them, become curious about their story. Ask questions without interrogating. Find out what’s going on for them. Learn about what’s bothering them at work, at home, etc… Listen without judgment, without responding. As you listen long enough, they will undoubtedly make sense, even if you don’t agree.

Once people feel heard and that you care about what they have to say, they are much more likely to be responsive and more willing to collaborate.

After working with high conflict couples for over twenty years in his marriage counseling practice, I have discovered that the same process used with couples is exactly what companies need to do to sort out their workplace and communication differences.

Curiosity is a Leader’s Best Tool

Dennis Shirshikov
Head of Growth & Engineering, Growthlimit

At its essence, civility thrives when leaders regularly acknowledge and validate the different perspectives people bring to the table.

So, by actively seeking input from everyone, leaders indicate that all voices matter and opposing ideas are not quelled, but welcomed. This active recognition also contributes to breaking down hierarchical walls and stimulates open dialogue and reciprocal respect. It builds a culture where people are comfortable sharing concerns, questioning ideas, and sharing creative solutions. Because fundamentally, this behavior is indicative of a leader’s dedication not just to the performance metrics but to the human dynamics that will continue to drive long-term collaboration.

As perspective taking becomes a habit, ingrained as a cultural imperative, everyday interactions that reflect the organization’s deeper values of respect and inclusion emerge.

Validate Perspectives to Foster Civility

Steve Corcoran
CEO, Lawn Love

Be a leader who communicates well.

When it comes to conflict or issues with hostility in the workplace, those can be awkward situations to have to address. But, you have to be a leader who is willing to tackle them head-on and communicate clearly and effectively with your team. You can’t be a leader who shies away from the hard conversations and hopes that issues will resolve on their own.

This is just one of many reasons why it’s so important for leaders to be great communicators.

Communicating as a leader doesn’t just mean communicating with investors and external individuals – it means interpersonal team communication as well.

Leaders Must Tackle Hard Conversations

Adam Hamilton
CEO, REI Hub

Lead with compassion.

Compassionate leaders are able to lead in a way that always considers everybody’s feelings and makes sure to create a workspace where every single employee feels supported.

When you lead with compassion, you can help inspire compassion among those you lead, setting the foundation for how you want your team to treat each other. Leading with compassion also allows you to tackle delicate situations like conflict resolution with care.

Compassionate leadership is a type of leadership where you are able to both be effectively hands-on and you are able to set the tone for how your team acts even when you aren’t around.

Compassionate Leadership Sets a Positive Tone

Oleksii Kratko
Founder & CEO, Snov

One behavior I’ve championed across our 180-person global team (including conflict-zone engineers in Ukraine) is “Friction Fridays”: Every leader hosts a 15-minute virtual coffee where team members share one work-related frustration anonymously via sticky notes. The leader reads them aloud, and we collectively brainstorm solutions. No blame, just problem-solving.

This ritual transforms passive resentment into active collaboration.

For example, a note like “Design mockups always arrive late, making QA rushed” became a new Slack protocol where designers tag “ready for review” with a 24-hour buffer. The magic here is that vulnerability starts at the top, as I kickstart sessions with my own flaws (“I overbook calendar slots; call me out!”).

Civility isn’t about avoiding conflict, it’s about creating safe spaces to resolve it.

Friction Fridays Resolve Conflict with Collaboration

Davide Pirola
CTO, Trep Digitalx

One of the most effective leadership behaviors to promote civility is modeling ‘constructive curiosity.’

When tension arises, leaders should respond not with judgment or silence, but with thoughtful questions: ‘Help me understand your perspective’ or ‘What outcome are you hoping for?’ This shifts the tone from conflict to collaboration.

At Trep DigitalX, we actively train team leads to stay curious rather than defensive, especially in disagreement. It creates space for open dialogue without escalating friction.

By normalizing respectful inquiry, we create a culture where it’s safe to challenge ideas, not people. Civility isn’t about avoiding conflict; it’s about how we engage when it happens.

Constructive Curiosity Promotes Workplace Civility

Steve Schwab
CEO, Casago Vacasa

Good leaders should know how to resolve conflict.

They should know how to step in during the middle of an argument, how to handle a conflict once it’s happened, and how to prevent conflict in the first place. These situations can be a bit tricky to handle since emotions can be heavily involved, which is why leaders need empathy.

Leading with empathy allows you to see things from everyone’s perspective and come up with a course of action and resolution that respects everyone’s feelings and opinions.

So, having empathy and stepping in is necessary for any good leader to foster civility and handle conflict.

Empathy is Essential for Conflict Resolution

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Skill and Soul: The Cost of Neglecting Creativity and EQ

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Skill and Soul: The Cost of Neglecting Creativity and EQ

In an era dominated by technical expertise, a vital paradox arises: overemphasizing skills like coding or data analysis while neglecting creativity and emotional intelligence incurs steep, hidden costs. 

Companies sidelining these “soft skills” risk creating technically proficient but culturally weak teams—ones that execute tasks well but fail to solve meaningful problems, inspire vision, or connect with customers. 

This HR Spotlight article compiles wisdom from HR professionals and business leaders, revealing the pitfalls of a tech-only mindset. 

They emphasize why nurturing creativity and emotional intelligence is essential, amplifying technical skills, driving innovation, and securing long-term organizational health.

Read on!

Steve Rosas
Chief Operations Officer & President, Omega Env

Emotional Intelligence Solves Human Problems

The biggest cost is losing the ability to solve complex problems that don’t have technical solutions. In 26 years of environmental consulting, I’ve seen brilliant engineers create perfect remediation plans that failed because they couldn’t communicate with worried communities or steer regulatory personalities.

I had a major downtown LA renovation project where our technical team identified asbestos contamination perfectly. But the project nearly collapsed because the initial approach ignored the building tenants’ concerns and the city inspector’s communication style. We had to completely shift our strategy to focus on transparent dialogue and relationship-building to get the project back on track.

The real damage happens when teams can’t adapt to unexpected human factors. Environmental projects involve property owners, regulatory agencies, and often concerned communities – all with different priorities and communication styles.

Pure technical expertise means nothing if you can’t build trust or explain complex risks in ways people actually understand.

I’ve seen companies lose million-dollar contracts not because their technical solutions were wrong, but because they couldn’t read the room or adjust their approach when stakeholders pushed back. The most successful environmental consultants combine technical precision with emotional intelligence to steer these complex human dynamics.

Cristina Deneve
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Empoweruemdr

Technical Success Can Mask Emotional Wounds

The biggest cost is the erosion of authentic human connection and trust – the very foundation of meaningful relationships.

In my therapy practice with first and second-generation Americans, I see how families prioritize academic and technical achievements while neglecting emotional intelligence, creating profound disconnection across generations.

I worked with a brilliant software engineer whose immigrant parents celebrated his six-figure salary but dismissed his anxiety and relationship struggles as “weakness.” His technical success masked deep emotional wounds from never learning to process feelings or communicate authentically. When he finally sought therapy, he realized he’d built a successful career but had no idea who he truly was beneath the achievements.

This pattern shows up constantly in my practice – high-achieving clients who excel professionally but struggle with setting boundaries, expressing emotions, or maintaining intimate relationships. They’ve been trained to solve problems technically but lack the emotional intelligence to steer complex human dynamics.

The irony is that technical expertise without emotional intelligence creates leaders who can build systems but can’t inspire teams, solve problems but can’t collaborate effectively, and achieve goals but can’t sustain fulfillment.

Erinn Everhart
Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, Every Heart Dreams Counseling

Technical Skills Alone Kill Innovation

In my therapy practice, I’ve witnessed how workplaces prioritizing technical skills over emotional intelligence create a crisis of authentic connection. Teams become collections of isolated experts who can’t communicate their brilliant ideas effectively.

I recently worked with a software engineer who was technically exceptional but couldn’t collaborate with colleagues. His company kept promoting based on coding ability while ignoring his team’s mounting frustration with his communication style. The cost wasn’t just workplace tension—it was massive turnover and project delays that hurt their bottom line.

What I see most is emotional loneliness spreading through technically-driven workplaces. People spend 40+ hours weekly surrounded by colleagues but feel completely disconnected. They excel at problem-solving systems but struggle to steer basic human interactions, leading to burnout and mental health issues.

The biggest cost is losing our capacity for genuine innovation. Real breakthroughs happen when people feel safe being vulnerable with wild ideas. When we sideline emotional intelligence, we create environments where creativity dies because no one feels psychologically safe to risk being wrong.

Darin Garvey
Founder, Basement Waterproofing Scientists

Technical Skills Need Emotional Intelligence

After 30 years in basement waterproofing, I’ve seen companies get so caught up in technical certifications and equipment specs that they forget how to actually talk to scared homeowners. The biggest cost? Losing the ability to read people and adapt your approach.

I had a competitor who could recite every waterproofing standard but couldn’t sense when a customer was overwhelmed by technical jargon. They’d launch into membrane specifications while the homeowner just wanted to know “will my basement stay dry?” We landed that client by asking about their family’s concerns first, then explaining our lifetime guarantee in simple terms.

The real damage happens during inspections. Technical skills find the leak, but emotional intelligence determines if customers trust your solution. I’ve watched technically brilliant contractors lose deals because they couldn’t connect with anxious homeowners who’d been burned by previous “experts.”

Our lean operation succeeds because we balance both – we use specialized leak detection equipment, but we also read the room and explain solutions in ways people actually understand.

Courtney Epps
Tax Strategist & CEO, OTB Tax

Creativity And EQ Save Money

The biggest cost I’ve seen is lost revenue opportunities – and I’m talking real money here. In my 19 years running OTB Tax, I’ve watched businesses sacrifice tens of thousands in potential savings because they prioritized technical tax prep over creative problem-solving.

Perfect example: Dr. Kenneth Meisten came to me after his previous “technically skilled” accountant had him owing $3,300. My approach wasn’t just about crunching numbers – it was about understanding his business emotionally and creatively seeing opportunities others missed. We turned that $3,300 debt into an $18,000 refund by going back three years and finding strategies his previous accountant never considered.

The technical skills got his returns filed correctly, but the creative thinking and emotional intelligence to truly understand his business model saved him over $21,000. When you sideline creativity, you’re literally leaving money on the table – I see clients miss $4,000-$8,000 annually because their previous accountants couldn’t think outside the box.

Lauren Hogsett Steele
Licensed Professional Counselor, Pittsburghcit

Prioritizing Tech Skills Has A Human Cost

As a trauma therapist, I see this cost play out in the bodies of my clients daily. When workplaces prioritize technical skills over emotional intelligence, employees develop chronic stress responses that manifest as anxiety, depression, and relational difficulties years later.

I worked with a software engineer who excelled technically but burned out completely because his team had zero emotional awareness around collaboration. His nervous system was stuck in fight-or-flight from constant workplace conflicts that could have been prevented with basic emotional intelligence training.

The biggest cost isn’t just individual—it’s systemic. Through my somatic therapy work, I’ve noticed that people from highly technical environments often struggle to connect with their own emotional needs, let alone their colleagues’. This creates workplaces where innovation actually decreases because creative thinking requires psychological safety.

From an attachment perspective, humans are wired for connection first, competence second. When we flip this priority, we’re essentially working against our neurobiological design, which always backfires eventually.

Rebecca Falzano
Creative Director, Vernacular Agency

Creativity And EQ Drive Brand Differentiation

When we helped launch The Independent Ice Co. whiskey bar in Portland, the technical skills were there—great location, solid business model, experienced team. But what made the difference was understanding the emotional story behind Maine’s ice harvesting history and connecting that to creating an “honest-to-goodness whiskey experience for honest-to-goodness people.”

The biggest cost of sidelining creativity is losing authentic differentiation. In Portland’s crowded Old Port district, dozens of bars have the technical basics covered. What separated Independent Ice Co. was the creative narrative that turned historical ice cards into diamond-shaped coasters and transformed potential intimidation around whiskey into welcoming expertise.

I’ve seen this pattern across our architectural clients too. Kevin Browne Architecture had solid technical skills, but their growth stagnated until we dug into the emotional intelligence piece—understanding how clients actually *feel* when working with architects. We repositioned them from technical experts to “careful listeners” and “respectful collaborators.”

Without emotional intelligence guiding the creative process, you end up with technically sound but forgettable brands that blend into the noise.

Jesse Burnett
Master Electrician & Founder, Dr Electric CSRA

Technical Skills Need Emotional Intelligence

After scaling Dr. Electric CSRA to nearly $1 million in revenue in just 12 months, I’ve seen how pure technical focus can actually hurt your bottom line. The biggest cost isn’t what you’d expect—it’s losing repeat customers who feel like just another job number.

I learned this the hard way when one of my crews perfectly installed a Generac generator but barely communicated with the homeowner during the process. Technically flawless work, but the customer felt ignored and complained about our “robot-like” service. That feedback made me realize we were training technicians, not problem-solvers.

Now I require my three crews to spend genuine time explaining what they’re doing and why. This emotional intelligence approach has directly increased our customer satisfaction scores and referrals. My 5-year warranty means nothing if customers don’t trust us enough to call us back.

The math is simple: technical skills get the job done, but creativity and EQ get you the next five jobs from that same customer’s network. In the trades, your reputation travels faster than your technical certifications.

Terry Green
President, eSports Insurance

Technical Compliance Doesn’t Build Trust

After 20 years in sports insurance, I’ve seen organizations lose tens of thousands when they prioritize technical compliance over understanding their community’s actual needs.

A youth soccer league I worked with hired a risk management consultant who created a technically perfect safety protocol but completely ignored the emotional reality of parents and coaches.

The result was a 40% drop in enrollment within one season. Parents felt alienated by the cold, procedural approach that treated their kids like liability statistics rather than young athletes. The league’s focus on technical risk mitigation backfired because they forgot that sports insurance is fundamentally about protecting relationships and experiences, not just minimizing claims.

I’ve learned that the biggest cost isn’t financial—it’s trust. When organizations become too technical, they lose the emotional intelligence to communicate why safety matters. The most successful programs I ensure blend technical expertise with genuine care for their participants’ experience.

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

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