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Stopping the Blame Game: How to Build a Responsible Workforce

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Stopping the Blame Game: How to Build a Responsible Workforce

Blame-shifting in the workplace can erode trust, tank morale, and stifle growth, yet it’s a persistent challenge for many organizations.

With studies like Gallup’s 2024 report showing that high accountability cultures boost employee engagement by 27%, fostering responsibility is more critical than ever.

We reached out to HR visionaries and business leaders to tackle a pressing question:

What are your go-to solutions for improving accountability within your workforce?

From implementing transparent goal-setting frameworks to fostering psychological safety, their practical strategies and real-world insights offer a blueprint for transforming blame into ownership.

Dive into their expert advice to unlock a more empowered, productive workplace.

Read on!

Trayton Vance
CEO & Founder, Coaching Focus Ltd

Coaching Culture Replaces Blame With Accountability

When blame becomes the norm, growth takes a backseat.

It’s a pattern we see all too often. A deadline gets missed. A mistake slips through. Fingers start pointing. Suddenly, it’s less about solving the issue – and more about dodging responsibility.

Blame can feel safe in the short term. But over time? It chips away at trust. It fuels defensiveness. And it stalls progress.

Here’s the truth:
When blame takes over, learning stops. People hold back. Morale dips. And innovation? It fizzles.

So, how do you break that cycle?

By building a coaching culture that champions accountability – not blame.

In a coaching-led environment, mistakes aren’t seen as failures to hide. They’re seen as opportunities to learn and grow.

Here’s how coaching flips the script:

1. It shifts focus from blame to ownership: Our coaches support individuals in asking the right questions: What was my part in this? What can I learn from it? What would I do differently next time? Accountability becomes internal – not imposed.

2. It encourages curiosity over criticism: Instead of jumping to conclusions, teams learn to pause and explore what happened. That space creates understanding – and stronger, more resilient solutions.

3. It empowers leaders to model the way: Leaders stop reacting and start coaching. They become role models for calm reflection, honest feedback, and clear expectations. And when leaders own their part? The ripple effect is huge.

4. It builds psychological safety: When people feel safe to speak up, take risks, and admit when something didn’t go to plan – that’s where true accountability lives. Coaching nurtures that safety. It creates space for honesty without fear.

The result?

A workforce that doesn’t hide from mistakes. They learn from them.

They bounce back stronger.

And they hold themselves – and each other – to high standards because they want to, not because they’re afraid not to.

Nurdes Gomez
Director of People Operations, eMed

Accountability Thrives In Trust, Not Fear

Shifting blame can quickly erode trust and collaboration within a team. For me, improving accountability starts with creating a culture where people feel safe owning both their wins and their mistakes.

I’ve found that clear expectations, regular feedback, and modeling accountability as a leader go a long way. You need to be honest when you or your team makes a mistake, own it and fix it. People will always respect you for being forthcoming and working towards constant growth.

I also believe in focusing on solutions rather than finger-pointing. When someone drops the ball, it’s an opportunity to ask, “What can we learn from this?” and “How can we prevent it next time?” That reframing fosters growth, not fear. But just as important is making sure people know that trying something new isn’t failure–it’s learning. I always encourage a mindset of try, assess, and pivot. That’s how growth happens–through curiosity, experimentation, and reflection.

When we create space for people to explore new ideas without fear of blame, they feel empowered to take initiative and learn from the process. Accountability then becomes less about avoiding mistakes and more about continuously growing–together.

Max Shak
Founder & CEO, nerDigital

Clarity And Trust Foster Accountability Culture

Accountability isn’t just a leadership ideal–it’s a cultural foundation. At Nerdigital, we’ve worked hard to build an environment where ownership is expected, respected, and reinforced daily. Shifting blame might be easy in the short term, but in the long run, it erodes trust, stalls progress, and kills team momentum. One of my biggest priorities as a leader has been creating conditions where accountability becomes the norm, not the exception.

The first step is clarity. A lot of blame-shifting comes from vague expectations or undefined roles. So we start with alignment–every team member knows what success looks like in their role, what they’re responsible for, and how their work ladders up to the bigger picture. When people understand their impact, they take more pride in their performance.

But accountability doesn’t thrive in fear–it thrives in trust. We’ve created a culture where mistakes aren’t punished but debriefed. When something goes wrong, we don’t look for someone to blame; we look for what we can learn. That shift opens the door for real ownership. People feel safe admitting when they’ve dropped the ball–and that honesty becomes contagious. It also makes it easier for us, as leaders, to coach in real time rather than letting issues fester under the surface.

One thing I personally do is model it. If I miss something or make a misstep, I own it–publicly. That vulnerability from the top sets the tone for the rest of the team. It says, “We’re all human, but we’re also all responsible.” And it reinforces the idea that accountability isn’t about perfection–it’s about integrity.

We also use regular retrospectives, not just for projects, but for how we function as a team. What worked? What didn’t? Where can we improve individually and collectively? It’s not a blame game–it’s a growth loop.

Improving accountability isn’t about control–it’s about empowerment. When people feel truly seen, supported, and trusted, they start showing up not just for the task, but for the team. That’s when accountability becomes second nature. And when that happens, culture strengthens, performance improves, and everyone grows together.

Tyler Harper
Co-Founder, Homegrown Storage

Clear Roles Encourage Ownership And Growth

Improving accountability starts with setting clear expectations and creating a culture where ownership is encouraged and modeled from the top down. At Homegrown Storage, we’ve found that when roles, responsibilities, and outcomes are clearly defined, it becomes much easier for team members to take ownership of their work.

One of our go-to solutions is regular check-ins that focus not just on performance but on problem-solving. We ask team members to reflect on what went well, what didn’t, and how they plan to improve. This shifts the focus from blame to growth. We also make it a point to recognize accountability when we see it–publicly acknowledging when someone takes responsibility and works to fix an issue helps reinforce that it’s a valued trait.

When mistakes happen, we treat them as learning opportunities rather than reasons for punishment. This creates a safe space for honest reflection and encourages continuous improvement. Over time, this approach builds trust, strengthens morale, and fosters a more resilient, responsible team.

Kritika Kanodia
CEO, Write Right

Leading By Example Cultivates Accountability

Improving accountability within a workforce starts with creating a culture of trust and transparency. At Write Right, I’ve found that leading by example is one of the most effective strategies. When I hold myself accountable, it sets a tone for others to do the same.

I make sure that responsibilities are clearly defined from the start–everyone knows their roles and expectations. Regular check-ins are crucial for staying on track and making adjustments as needed. If an issue arises, I focus on problem-solving rather than blame. Encouraging open communication and allowing space for honest discussions about mistakes fosters a learning environment instead of a blame culture.

One key practice I implement is having “ownership meetings,” where team members share successes and also areas where things didn’t go as planned. This helps people take responsibility without fear of punishment, knowing it’s a learning opportunity.

By nurturing a culture of mutual respect and ownership, employees begin to see accountability as a part of personal growth and success, which ultimately leads to improved morale and a stronger, more cohesive team.

Steve Faulkner
Founder & Chief Recruiter, Spencer James Group

Workflow Platforms Enhance Accountability And Efficiency

When each team member’s work is clearly documented and tracked, it becomes much more difficult for employees to shift blame or sidestep accountability. This doesn’t require micromanaging every task. What has worked well for us at Spencer James Group is making effective use of a workflow management platform to assign tasks, monitor progress, and give managers visibility into their teams’ work at a big-picture level.

What I appreciate about this solution is that it strengthens accountability while also improving efficiency and communication across the team. Everyone knows exactly what stage each project is in and who is responsible for it. Once a task is complete, it can automatically move to the next step in the process, reducing the risk of delays or missed steps.

This kind of system also fosters peer-to-peer accountability. It gives team members visibility into each other’s workloads, allowing them to check in, offer support, or collaborate when someone falls behind or needs help to meet a deadline. Ultimately, utilizing a workflow management platform increases transparency around every team member’s tasks and responsibilities–and transparency and accountability go hand in hand.

Anita Roach
Founder, Safe & Sound Workplace Alliance

Trauma-Informed Approach Transforms Accountability

Blame-shifting is often seen as a character flaw or a lack of professionalism–but in trauma-informed workplaces, we pause to consider: what’s underneath the behavior? The instinct to deflect blame can, in fact, be a deeply ingrained trauma response. For individuals who have experienced environments–personally or professionally–where mistakes led to punishment, shame, or loss of safety, self-protection becomes a reflex. Shifting blame becomes a way to survive, not sabotage.

This doesn’t mean we excuse the behavior. It means we understand it, so we can change it.

Accountability is not about blame. It’s about building safety, trust, and integrity through aligned actions and transparent systems. In Safe & Sound: Cultivating a Whole-human, Trauma-informed Approach to Employee and Employer Well-being, I introduce the Seven Agreements, a set of actionable commitments that help organizations operationalize trauma-informed values. Among them, Uphold Accountability is foundational.

In a Safe & Sound workplace, accountability is approached not as a tool for control, but as a mechanism for healing and empowerment. It reinforces the message: “You are believed. You are protected. We stand behind our commitments.”

This shift requires organizations to:

Create clear and consistent structures for accountability that avoid ambiguity and arbitrariness.

Model transparency at all levels, especially among leadership, to demonstrate that accountability is reciprocal–not hierarchical.

Build relational trust by acknowledging mistakes, offering repair, and demonstrating that accountability is about growth, not punishment.

This Agreement doesn’t exist in isolation. It is upheld by others–especially Allow and Accept Humanness, which ensures that employees feel safe enough to admit mistakes without shame, and Be Mindful of Actions, Behaviors, and Their Impact, which helps us recognize how unaddressed harm can perpetuate silence, blame, and fear.

In organizations where accountability is upheld in alignment with these Agreements, we don’t see blame-shifting as often. Instead, we see employees who take ownership of their work, raise concerns earlier, and engage in repair when things go wrong. Why? Because they trust the process and feel psychologically safe.

Modeling the behaviors, embedding them in policies, and providing training that helps teams understand accountability not as discipline, but as care can shift behavior from one of blaming to one of accountability.

Marissa Daskalakis
Small Business Owner & Chef, Fete Fraiche

Family Meal Review Depersonalizes Feedback

We’ve transformed accountability in our kitchen by implementing a practice borrowed from Michelin-starred restaurants called “family meal review.”

After each event, our entire team gathers to taste leftover components and discuss both successes and shortcomings openly, focusing on the food itself rather than individual performance. This product-centered approach depersonalizes feedback while maintaining clear standards.

When issues arise, we ask “what happened to the dish?” rather than “who made the mistake?” This subtle shift encourages collaborative problem-solving rather than defensive positioning.

By consistently modeling vulnerability–beginning with leadership acknowledging our own missteps first–we’ve created a culture where accountability becomes about collective improvement rather than individual blame, resulting in remarkable quality improvements and nearly eliminated staff turnover.

Austin Benton
Founder, Speaker Drive

Ownership Maps Shift Culture From Blame To Clarity

One of the most effective ways I’ve found to improve accountability–especially in a team where finger-pointing starts creeping in–is to remove the fog. At our speaker agency, we made one simple change: we replaced vague to-do lists and generic job titles with ultra-clear ownership maps. Every project now has a visible owner, not a “team” owner–one person, one face, even if the work is shared.

What that did was quietly shift the culture. It’s not about blame anymore, it’s about clarity. When someone knows their name next to a task, they think differently. And when something does go sideways, the conversation shifts from “who messed this up?” to “what process let this through, and how do we fix it next time?” Blame fades when people feel safe owning things–even the mistakes.

Accountability isn’t built by pushing harder–it’s built by creating systems that don’t let people hide or panic. Clear roles, honest post-mortems, and a culture where owning up gets you more respect than deflecting ever could–that’s how you build real accountability.

James McNally
Managing Director, SDVH [Self Drive Vehicle Hire]

Celebrating Accountability Reduces Blame Culture

At SDVH, I focus on leading by example and making accountability a core part of our culture. My team needs to observe me taking responsibility in all situations as a CEO because it demonstrates leadership through ownership, and that trickles down.

We also make it a point to celebrate accountability across departments. If a team member steps up to solve an issue or drive a project forward, we recognize that publicly through team shoutouts and internal comm. Our organization has seen a major reduction in blame culture alongside an increase in team morale because of this reinforcement strategy.

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

Do you wish to contribute to the next HR Spotlight article? Or is there an insight or idea you’d like to share with readers across the globe?

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DEI Rollbacks: HR and Business Leaders Unpack the Consequences

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DEI Rollbacks: HR and Business Leaders Unpack the Consequences

The corporate world is at a crossroads as major companies like Walmart, Meta, and Disney scale back their Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) initiatives, citing shifting priorities and political pressures.

But what does this retreat mean for workplaces, employee morale, and business success?

We went straight to the experts, asking HR trailblazers and business leaders to weigh in on the critical question:

What are the potential outcomes of dialing back DEI efforts?

From risks like increased workplace bias and talent loss to opportunities for reimagining inclusion strategies, their candid insights—grounded in data like McKinsey’s 2023 report showing diverse teams boost performance by 35%—offer a roadmap for navigating this complex shift.

Join us as we unpack the real-world implications and what’s at stake for the future of work.

Read on!

Kim Clark
DEI Communications Speaker & Consultant, Kim Clark Communications, Inc.

Scaling Back DEI Risks Brand Damage

In short: Brand reputation damage. “Optics” backfiring. Unwanted attrition. Trust in leadership is sinking. Increased discrimination without the protections that DEI provides organizations. Still won’t be protected from intimidation and litigation threats.

It is extremely dangerous to pull back on legal, productive DEI work. This makes companies more vulnerable – not less – to legal issues and would be going in the opposite direction that employees, customers, shareholders, and society are going. Core to a company being sustainable is staying relevant and scaling back on useful, legal DEI work will make companies less relevant.

This is the time to protect your people. The ones doing the intimidation do not care about your company, or your employees, or your customers or your revenue. You do. If you’ve done a comprehensive audit of your DEI work according to applicable laws, all you’re doing with DEI work is living up to your mission, vision, and values. Your actions are in integrity with your statements.

To message this in a way that each audience can understand, I recommend using The DEPTH Model from the book, The Conscious Communicator.

Nurit Hattab
Consultant, DEI & Culture Change, The DEI Code

DEI Is Essential For Everyone’s Success

Scaling Back DEI initiatives? Here’s what’s at stake for everyone:

It affects all of us – Life is unpredictable. At some point in our lives, we all become “diverse” – through health challenges, caregiving roles, or unexpected life shifts. We need systems that can see us, support us, and help us thrive. DEI isn’t about “others”; it’s about all of us, in our full humanity.

DEI is not about labels – it’s about people. The real focus is on recognizing and valuing uniqueness. Scaling back DEI initiatives sends the wrong message: that people’s individual needs, strengths, and growth areas aren’t seen or supported. That erodes the human side of work and your attractiveness as an employer.

It’s about building organizations that work for everyone – Research shows that environments fostering belonging empower all employees -not just those from historically excluded groups. The result? Stronger collaboration, better decision-making, and improved outcomes.

In a knowledge economy, the difference is your competitive edge – When you stop creating spaces for different voices, perspectives, and ways of thinking, you risk losing the very innovation that drives growth -whether it’s a warning you didn’t see coming or a game-changing idea.

Why you scale back matters -If DEI programs are paused to be refined, aligned with legal frameworks, and improved–great. If they’re stopped to avoid discomfort or complexity, everyone loses. Avoiding difference is not a strategy–it becomes a liability.

System adaptability is still key – DEI practices help organizations evolve – updating outdated systems and unlocking fresh thinking. That’s not a “nice to have”; it’s business-critical in a fast-moving world.

While scaling back DEI initiatives may address certain legal or political concerns, it also introduces serious risks – around equity, reputation, and long-term org. effectiveness. Companies that step back too far may unintentionally send a message that people’s individual experiences and strengths don’t matter.

That’s not just a cultural loss–it’s a strategic one.

Brett Ungashick
CEO, OutSail

Scaling Back DEI Undermines Growth

As a professional HRIS expert, I see the scaling back of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) initiatives as a potentially short-sighted move that may undermine long-term organizational growth and employee engagement. DEI is not just a social initiative–it directly impacts recruitment, retention, and performance. Data shows that diverse teams are more innovative and productive, and organizations with inclusive cultures experience higher employee satisfaction and lower turnover rates. When DEI efforts are deprioritized, businesses may lose these strategic advantages.

From an HRIS perspective, DEI metrics are vital for tracking organizational health and equity in the workforce. Reducing focus on DEI initiatives could lead to less visibility into workforce disparities, affecting everything from promotions to pay equity. Systems that capture and analyze DEI-related data help leadership make informed decisions, ensuring fairness and compliance with equal opportunity laws. Scaling back can hinder progress, especially if the underlying analytics and accountability mechanisms are removed or weakened.

Moreover, the message sent to employees when DEI is scaled back can be demoralizing, particularly for underrepresented groups. It may lead to decreased trust in leadership, lower morale, and diminished feelings of belonging. This can result in a disengaged workforce, reduced collaboration, and even public reputation risk–especially in today’s environment where social responsibility matters to both employees and consumers.

In the long run, organizations that step back from DEI may find themselves less competitive in attracting top talent. Younger generations entering the workforce are more diverse and increasingly value inclusion and equity as core workplace values. Rather than retreating from DEI, companies should aim to integrate it more deeply into their HR technology systems and business strategies–making it measurable, actionable, and sustainable.

Austin Benton
Founder, Speaker Drive

DEI Rollback Makes Companies Easier To Ignore

Imagine you’re building a soccer team. Not just any team, but one meant to win tournaments, attract fans, and actually matter. Now, if everyone on that team plays the same way, thinks the same way, and trained under the same coach… sure, things might feel smooth at first. But the team becomes predictable. Easy to read. Eventually, you lose to teams that know how to bring in different styles, weird plays, unexpected moves. That’s what happens when companies scale back DEI.

I’ve worked in marketing for a speaker agency, and let me tell you–when events start sounding like echo chambers, people stop listening. DEI brings in voices with different life experiences, ideas you wouldn’t have come up with on your own. And when companies cut that out because it feels “too political” or “too risky,” they lose edge. It’s like benching your most creative players because their style is different. Sure, it’s quieter… but also less powerful.

Long story short: pulling back on DEI might make things look neat for a while, but in the real world, it just makes you easier to ignore.

Paul DeMott
Chief Technology Officer, Helium SEO

Shift DEI From Policy To Action

For organizations looking to create a tangible, measurable impact in DEI, one of the most effective steps is to shift from policy creation to actionable, data-driven initiatives. This means setting clear, measurable goals tied to DEI outcomes, like hiring targets, career advancement opportunities, or retention rates for underrepresented groups.

Rather than just relying on broad statements, organizations should establish a system for tracking progress. For example, using employee surveys to measure inclusivity, reviewing hiring practices to ensure they are equitable, and analyzing promotion patterns to identify gaps. These actions allow leadership to see where they’re succeeding and where they need to improve. Regularly reviewing this data and making adjustments in real-time shows a commitment to real change, not just lip service.

Accountability is key–setting up DEI champions at different levels within the organization to lead the charge can also make a difference. With tangible goals and data behind them, organizations can build a DEI culture that has measurable, lasting effects on the workforce.

Sheena Yap Chan
WSJ Bestselling Author, Sheena Yap Chan

DEI Rollback Harms Team Morale

One unexpected consequence of a DEI rollback I observed was a noticeable decline in team morale and collaboration.

When leadership deprioritized DEI initiatives, it sent an unspoken message that inclusivity and diverse perspectives weren’t valued. This led to underrepresented employees feeling unsupported and hesitant to share their ideas, which stifled creativity and innovation.

The rollback also created silos within teams, as trust and psychological safety diminished across the organization.

What I learned from this experience is that DEI isn’t just a program or initiative-it’s the foundation for building resilient, high-performing teams. When inclusivity is sidelined, it impacts everyone, not just those who are directly marginalized. Organizations thrive when all employees feel valued, heard, and empowered to contribute authentically.

This experience reinforced my commitment to advocating for DEI as a non-negotiable priority in any workplace, as it directly influences the health, success, and sustainability of the entire organization.

Aimie Ye
Director of Marketing, Centime

Embed DEI In Performance Management

One practical step organizations can take is embedding DEI into performance management–tying leadership bonuses or promotions to specific, measurable DEI outcomes. It forces accountability beyond good intentions.

For example, you can track inclusive hiring metrics, retention rates for underrepresented groups, or team-wide participation in bias training and mentorship programs. If DEI goals are treated like revenue or operational KPIs, they’re more likely to drive real behavior change.

At Centime, we’ve seen the difference when DEI isn’t siloed under HR but is part of how every team operates. This means empowering ERG leaders with actual budgets, inviting diverse voices into product and marketing reviews, and analyzing whether vendor partnerships reflect your values.

DEI can’t be a checkbox–it has to be a lens through which the entire organization makes decisions.

Maurice Harary
CEO & Co-Founder, The Bid Lab

Scaling Back DEI Risks Long-Term Reputation

Scaling back DEI initiatives might bring short-term gains, but the reputation of brands that do so might suffer in the long run.

I’d advise organizations to carefully consider what they have to gain– and weigh that against what they’d have to lose by doing so.

There’s plenty of research out there that shows the most successful companies are the ones that are the most diverse. It makes sense to me that you’d want your workforce to reflect your target audience– which is everyone in your niche!

Doug Crawford
President & Founder, Best Trade Schools

Track DEI Success For Real Outcomes

One practical step an organization can take is to start tracking and measuring the success of its DEI initiatives in a way that connects directly to real outcomes. This could mean collecting data on hiring, promotions, and retention rates across different demographics.

Beyond just having policies in place, it’s essential to understand how those policies are influencing the workforce in tangible ways. This helps ensure that DEI efforts are not only surface-level but are actually contributing to a more inclusive and equitable work environment.

Joseph Commisso
Owner, WeBuyHousesQuick.ca

Scaling Back DEI Has Long-Term Consequences

Scaling back DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) initiatives may seem like a way to cut costs or avoid controversy, but it can lead to serious long-term consequences.

Without these efforts, organizations risk losing diverse talent, lowering employee morale, and weakening innovation due to a lack of varied perspectives. It may also hurt a company’s reputation, especially with younger generations and socially conscious customers who value inclusivity.

In some cases, pulling back on DEI can even lead to legal and compliance issues if protections and fair practices aren’t maintained.

Overall, while cutting DEI programs might offer short-term relief, it could cost much more in the long run in terms of talent, trust, and performance.

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

Do you wish to contribute to the next HR Spotlight article? Or is there an insight or idea you’d like to share with readers across the globe?

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The Stay Interview Landscape: Implementation and Alternatives

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The Stay Interview Landscape: Implementation and Alternatives

Organizations approach employee retention in a variety of ways, and the use of stay interviews is no exception. 

Some companies have embraced stay interviews as a core component of their talent management strategy, while others have opted for alternative approaches. 

In this post, we explore this diverse landscape, gathering insights from HR and business leaders across different industries. 

We asked them to share their experiences with stay interviews: those who conduct them detail their program’s objectives, frequency, core questions, and designated interviewers; those who don’t explain the factors that led to that decision. 

Their responses offer a valuable perspective on the strategic considerations involved in choosing the right retention strategies for your organization.

Read on!

Ashish Gaur
HR Consultant

Understand Employee Motivations Through Stay Interviews

We recognize the importance of employee engagement and retention. Stay interviews are valuable tools for understanding employee motivations, concerns, and expectations.

Why: They help identify factors that enhance job satisfaction and address potential attrition risks proactively.

When: Typically conducted annually or biannually, or when key talent shows signs of disengagement.

What: Discussions focus on career growth, work environment, challenges, and suggestions for improvement.

Who: Conducted by HR or direct supervisors to foster open and constructive dialogue.

If you’d like to explore best practices or implementation strategies, I’d be happy to share insights based on my experience in HRM and employee engagement.

Angela Heyroth
Principal, Talent Centric Designs

Conduct Engagement Chats Regularly

Stay interviews are intentional conversations you have with your employees about what they like about your organization, what they may need changed in order to continue growing or staying motivated, and if they are feeling valued.

I like to encourage all people leaders to have them at least annually, rather than reserving them for when there is a turnover crisis or you think someone is about to quit. 

By scheduling them on a recurring basis (annual, biannual, or quarterly) and calling them something like “Engagement Chat,” “Career Check-in,” or “Touch-Base Conversation,” it becomes less focused on a checkbox and more focused on getting feedback from the employees to ensure that the environment continues as one in which they can engage and be challenged, as well as help them see how great they are doing and how well a match they are to the company so they don’t consider leaving. 

Whatever you call it, it should be clearly different from a standard one-on-one or a performance check-in.

Some great questions to consider are:

What have you felt really good about accomplishing so far this year?

How close does this role match your dream job?

What’s been your worst day so far this year and how can I make sure that’s not repeated for you?

What talent do you have that I can better leverage?

Ann Kuss
CEO, Outstaff Your Team

Integrate Stay Interviews Into One-On-Ones

Stay interviews are one of the most valuable yet underrated retention tools.

We don’t treat them as formal sit-downs but integrate them naturally into one-on-ones and key milestones. This way, employees feel comfortable sharing real insights rather than rehearsed answers.

Every manager in our organization is equipped with a framework to ask the right questions, listen actively, and identify patterns across teams.

The goal isn’t just to understand why people stay but to spot early warning signs before they consider leaving.

A few things that make these conversations effective: timing matters–we avoid scheduling them during high-stress periods or major deadlines. We also group insights across teams to implement meaningful changes instead of treating feedback in isolation.

The key? Undivided attention and follow-up. If employees take the time to share, they need to see action.

Stay interviews work when they lead to real improvements — not just another checkbox in HR’s playbook.

Gearl Loden
Leadership Consultant & Speaker, Loden Leadership + Consulting

Act on Stay Interview Insights

At our organization, we believe that listening to employees isn’t just good leadership–it’s smart strategy.

One of the ways we do this is through stay interviews.

Our team visits each campus and facility, meeting one-on-one with a select group of employees who have been with us for at least three years.

These candid conversations go beyond surveys, uncovering what truly matters to our employees–why they stay, what keeps them engaged, and where we can improve.

And we don’t just listen–we act.

Thanks to the insights gained from stay interviews and employee surveys, we’ve made meaningful, employee-driven changes.

We’ve revamped how we communicate our benefits program, introduced an employee gym, increased sick day payouts, and added bereavement days to better support our team.

These changes have made a difference.

Since implementing stay interviews, we’ve seen higher engagement, stronger retention, and a workplace culture that people want to be part of.

One long-term employee recently shared, “Knowing my feedback directly led to real changes makes me feel valued in a way I haven’t experienced elsewhere.”

If you’re not conducting stay interviews, now is the time to start.

Listening and acting on employee feedback isn’t just about retention–it’s about building a workplace where people thrive.

Max Shak
Founder & CEO, Zapiy

Foster Continuous Engagement

At Zapiy, we believe in open, ongoing conversations with our team, but we don’t conduct formal stay interviews in the traditional sense. Instead, we focus on continuous engagement through regular one-on-one check-ins and team feedback loops.

Why? Because we want to catch small frustrations before they become big reasons to leave.

We’ve found that when employees feel heard only once a year in a structured “stay interview,” it can feel like a formality rather than a meaningful dialogue. Instead, we foster an environment where feedback is always welcome, whether it’s in a structured meeting or a casual chat.

That said, if I were to implement stay interviews, I’d prioritize:

When: Every six months, to identify trends early.

Who: Every team member, with direct managers leading the conversation.

What: Honest discussions about job satisfaction, growth opportunities, and any roadblocks.

My biggest concern with formal stay interviews is that they can sometimes feel too little, too late.

If leaders are waiting until an interview to address engagement issues, they’ve already missed critical moments to listen, act, and retain great people.

Nikita Sherbina
Co-Founder & CEO, AIScreen

Head Off Problems with Stay Interviews

We conduct stay interviews at our organization and they’ve become a big part of our employee retention strategy.

The “why” behind them is simple: we want to know why our employees stay with us, what motivates them and what could make their experience even better. This helps us head off problems before they become turnover.

We do stay interviews during performance reviews or after a big milestone like a year with the company.

The “what” is about job satisfaction, work environment, team dynamics and areas for improvement. We ask about growth opportunities and if they feel valued and supported.

As for the “who”, the interviews are usually conducted by the employee’s direct manager or HR depending on the individual’s comfort level. We make sure it’s a relaxed non-judgmental conversation so employees feel safe to share their feedback.

These have helped us reduce turnover by highlighting areas that needed attention like better communication or more development opportunities.

They’ve been huge in building our company culture and making employees feel heard and appreciated.

Austin Benton
Marketing Consultant, Gotham Artists

Use Casual Coffee Check-Ins

We don’t do traditional stay interviews–frankly, they feel too much like performance reviews in disguise.

Instead, we have casual “coffee check-ins,” spontaneous, low-pressure chats where employees can genuinely share what’s going well and what’s getting under their skin.

These happen every quarter, no forms, no formalities, just authentic conversations. Managers initiate these, but anyone can request one anytime.

We’ve found this method opens up honest dialog far better than scheduled, structured sit-downs.

The informal setting lets people relax, speak freely, and actually voice what matters–rather than checking boxes to satisfy HR.

Mohammed Kamal
Business Development Manager, Olavivo

Boost Retention with Stay Interviews

Stay interviews are proactive discussions aimed at boosting employee engagement and retention.

They help organizations enhance retention by identifying factors that keep employees satisfied, pinpoint areas for improvement in the work environment, and strengthen relationships to foster loyalty.

By gauging employee sentiment early, managers can address potential issues before they escalate, creating a more inclusive and committed workplace.

Michael Kazula
Director of Marketing, Olavivo

Enhance Engagement with Stay Interviews

Stay interviews are discussions between managers and employees aimed at understanding the reasons for employee retention and identifying areas for improvement.

Unlike exit interviews, which focus on departures, stay interviews seek to enhance satisfaction and engagement, particularly crucial in the affiliate marketing sector where retaining skilled professionals is vital.

These interviews not only help retain talent but also foster enhanced employee engagement through active feedback.

Alex Cornici
Writer, Cheap Places To Go

Retain Talent with Stay Interviews

Stay interviews have become a cornerstone strategy for our organization to retain talent and ensure employee satisfaction.

Essentially, these interviews serve as a preemptive strike against potential employee turnover by allowing us to address concerns and gather feedback in a constructive manner.

We typically conduct them annually, providing a comfortable space for employees and managers to discuss current job roles, career aspirations, and potential areas for improvement within the company structure.

The “who” of these interviews often includes department leaders and HR representatives who are trained to conduct these sessions effectively.

They’re particularly keen on understanding the employee’s personal engagement and commitment levels, gauging their feelings toward the workplace culture and career development opportunities available within the organization.

This open dialogue helps us to tailor professional development more accurately and enhance job satisfaction, fostering a more committed and content workforce.

In conclusion, incorporating stay interviews has markedly improved our employee retention rates and workplace morale, proving to be an invaluable tool in our HR practices.

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

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Creating a Mindful Workplace: Perspectives from HR and Business Leaders

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Creating a Mindful Workplace: Perspectives from HR and Business Leaders

How are HR and business leaders navigating the increasingly important conversation around employee well-being? 

Are concepts like mindfulness, well-being programs, and even spirituality finding a place in the modern workplace? 

And if so, what are the tangible results? In this post, we explore these questions through the lens of experienced leaders. 

We’ve asked them to share their personal opinions on incorporating these elements into the work environment, to detail any initiatives their organizations have implemented, and to assess the impact on both employee well-being and key organizational outcomes. 

Their insights provide a practical guide for organizations seeking to create a more supportive and fulfilling workplace.

Read on!

Christopher Falvey
Co-founder, Unique NOLA Tours

Christopher Falvey

I’m all for anything that can help people focus. Putting an effort into mindfullness, for example, applies to one’s personal well-being as well as their efforts for the company. This is nothing but a win-win.

When it comes to spirituality, I always want people to leave religion out of the workplace. So you’ll want to make sure you do stray towards religious talk.

But any co-worker should appreciate any efforts one does to make themselves a better person in general.

Kristine Gentry
CEO, Culture Grove LLC

Kristine Gentry

I worked with a client who suddenly announced to his team that they would have to start arriving 30 minutes early every day to do a guided meditation.

He told them their first day back in January after the holidays and said that beginning the next day, they would need to arrive earlier to meditate.

This was not well received by the employees.

Some felt like it violated their religious beliefs and stated that they already prayed every morning on their own time. They did not want to be forced to meditate.

Others were upset for more practical reasons – suddenly arriving 30 minutes earlier meant difficulties for their personal schedules and dealing with babies and children in the morning.

Others noted that this arrival time meant they must drive during the height of commute time in their city and had to leave up to one hour earlier to arrive on time.

The goal of the morning meditation was to bring the team together and start the day off on a positive note; however, the impact was added hardship and led to increased disengagement from the team.

Zita Chriszto
Clinical Psychologist, Dubai Psychology

Zita Chriszto

Mindfulness, well-being, and spirituality play significant roles in workplace effectiveness.

In a preliminary study, it was found that mindfulness training had promising results in productivity. People who are able to take care of their mental and physical well-being tend to be less susceptible to burnouts.

On the other hand, spirituality may have to be approached more sensitively.

The most important thing to consider is that it is imperative that the different religions of employees are respected in the workplace and no discrimination takes place.

When employees can authentically express themselves and feel safe doing so, they tend to be more productive and fulfilled.

Jessica Munday
Co-Founder & Head of HR,  Custom Neon

Jessica Munday

At Custom Neon, we strongly advocate for mindfulness and well-being practices in our workplace. I am passionate about getting the most from our team and ensuring that our employees are happy.

We’ve integrated Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs into our in-house training, emphasizing belonging and self-actualization as important factors for our team.

Our initiatives include diverse activities such as yoga sessions, sound baths, and community volunteering, creating opportunities for our team to relax and connect on deeper levels. 

On building our new office, we also chose a layout that would enhance camaraderie, a basketball court, break-out areas, and also individual spaces for when people want to work alone. 

Sharing my own experiences with burnout publicly within the team has helped destigmatize mental health issues, encouraging openness and support across all levels and offering confidential free counseling has been profound, increasing engagement, trust, and overall well-being, which in turn has driven better organizational outcomes.

Jenni Kovach
Chief People Officer, IGS Energy

Jenni Kovach

A people-first mentality is at the core of what we do at IGS and listening to our employees and enhancing benefits accordingly is key to our 95% employee satisfaction rate.

In recent years, we heard a need for greater access to mental health and well-being support.

In response, we made our largest investment in people development with Positive Foundry’s BetterYet program, which focuses on skills like emotional intelligence, mindfulness and resilience to help our team thrive.

Since implementation in 2020, we’ve seen an 86% increase in the (self-reported) personal well-being of employees and had employees tell us that it’s changed their life, saved their marriages, repaired relations with children and more.

We’ve also introduced Lyra, which provides employees, dependents and partners with 12 free mental health visits each year, free access to Headspace and encouragement to participate in Mindworx, an IGS Community for discussing mental health, sharing resources and combating stigma.

Alexandra Suchman
CEO & Co-Founder, Barometer XP

Alexandra Suchman

I believe mindfullness and well-being practices are critical in the workplace, and not just at the individual level.

So much of our success at work is related to how we feel about our colleagues and leaders, and the levels of mutual trust, respect, and collaboration we experience.

These relationships need to be nurtured.

Play is an extremely effective tool that allows colleagues to practice mindfulness in how they relate to one another. It provides an opportunity to reflect on how individual strengths and perspectives emerge during games, and helps develop profound understanding of each other’s motivations and communication styles.

These shared insights build trust and ensures that teams bring out the best in each other and are better prepared to work through challenges.

When employees have better relationships, they are more engaged in the work, more accountable to one another, and more invested in shared goals and objectives.

Karen Kossow
Self-Care and Resilience Coach for Autism Parents, OutOfYourOrdinary

Karen Kossow

I’ve seen firsthand the difference mindfulness programs can have on employees. Especially those navigating challenges in their personal lives which make it difficult to focus on their work. 

When employees voluntarily participate in mindfulness or well-being initiatives, they feel like their organization cares for them. This positively impacts not only their desire to do good work, but their ability to do it.

Human beings are not machines. We can’t divorce ourselves from personal problems and struggles as soon as we log on to work. 

Mindfulness and meditation are simple, effective, science-proven methods. They help employees focus, reset their nervous systems, reduce stress, and feel better.

Well-being initiatives create happier, healthier, more resilient employees, and better outcomes for organizations.

Leslie de Graaf
Owner, Everthrive Counseling

Leslie de Graaf

As a therapist and business owner, I’ve learned that prioritizing well-being practices isn’t just important—it’s essential.

In my practice, we emphasize mindful scheduling to ensure we take care of ourselves while serving our clients.

This means setting realistic daily caseloads, building in time for bio breaks, eating lunch and snacks, and completing notes without feeling rushed.

These practices help prevent burnout and foster a more focused, present mindset during sessions.

Encouraging small, intentional habits like stretching between appointments, taking deep breaths, or stepping outside for a quick reset creates a sustainable work rhythm.

The impact? Better outcomes for clients and a healthier work-life balance for therapists.

When we care for ourselves, we model the balance we encourage in others, creating a ripple effect that benefits everyone involved.

Jason Hennessey
CEO, Hennessey Digital

Jason Hennessey

Mindfulness and well-being are integral to our agency culture.

One initiative we implemented was a “Mindful Mondays” series, offering stress-management workshops and yoga classes.

This created a space for employees to recharge mentally and physically.

The ripple effect has been remarkable: fewer burnout cases, stronger engagement, and improved project outcomes.

Mindfulness isn’t just a trend—it’s a strategy for sustainable success.

Aaron Wertheimer
Marketing Copywriter, Marketing Reel

Aaron Wertheimer

My workplace is very supportive of mindfulness, well-being, and spirituality.

Our CEO practices meditation and runs daily, and he even gave us the option to invest in an exercise-based subscription where we could receive funds to enroll in a gym membership to support our physical and emotional well-being.

The outcome of both a weekly debrief meeting at the end of each week, the gym membership, and giving us the days off for religious holidays we’d like to observe has resulted in happier employees who have stayed with the company for more than two years, a more productive organization, and a more efficient system for work.

Employee morale is also high, and our team enjoys engaging in friendly banter back and forth between meetings and work projects.

I credit the above-mentioned outcomes to our management’s forward-thinking processes about mindfulness, spirituality, and well-being.

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

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Loyalty vs. Performance: A Difficult Promotion Decision

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Loyalty vs. Performance: A Difficult Promotion Decision

Imagine this: you’ve got a promotion to fill. 

Do you go with the loyal employee who’s always been there, even if their performance is just okay? 

Or do you pick the rockstar performer, knowing they might be out the door in six months? 

It’s a tough call, and it’s one HR and business leaders face all the time. 

In this post, we’re getting real about those hard decisions. 

We asked top leaders how they approach this dilemma, what factors they consider, and how they balance the need for great performance with the value of loyalty (and the cost of losing someone good!).

Read on!

Chris Giannos
Co-Founder & CEO, Humaniz

Promote Leadership Potential And Adaptability

The decision to promote a loyal but average performer over a high-performing employee who may leave depends on the long-term impact on the team and the organization.

While loyalty is valuable, a promotion should be based on leadership potential, adaptability, and the ability to drive results rather than tenure alone.

If the high performer is a strong cultural fit and contributes significantly to business success, efforts should first be made to retain them by addressing their career growth needs.

If they’re leaving due to a lack of advancement opportunities, a promotion could be a strategic move to keep them engaged and invested in the company.

However, if their long-term commitment is uncertain despite these efforts, promoting someone else who consistently supports team stability and growth might be the better choice.

Loyalty alone doesn’t justify a promotion, but if the average performer has demonstrated leadership qualities, the ability to develop skills, and a strong influence on team morale, they may be the better long-term investment.

The key is to ensure that any promotion aligns with business goals, maintains team motivation, and strengthens leadership without compromising performance.

Noah Musgrove
HR & Marketing Specialist, Liberty Financing LLC

Balance Performance And Long-Term Stability

When deciding between promoting a steady, loyal employee or a high performer who may leave, it is important to weigh both long-term and short-term stability impacts.

A top performer brings strong results, but if they decide to leave early the organization could face disruptions in workflow, morale, and overall team cohesion.

On the other hand, a reliable, consistent employee may not stand out as much in terms of performance but offers dependability and a stronger likelihood of long-term contribution.

The best choice depends on the company’s priorities and the potential for growth in each individual. If the high performer is open to staying with the right support, offering career development or incentives might make sense.

However, if their departure is likely, investing in the loyal employee’s growth and leadership skills can provide long-term stability.

It’s all about striking the right balance between immediate performance and sustainable success!

Vasilii Kiselev
CEO & Co-Founder, Legacy Online School

Balance Performance And Retention Strategies

When it comes to promoting a loyal average employee versus a high-performing potential flight risk, it all comes down to long-term strategy.

At Legacy Online School, we value performance and loyalty equally, but also recognize that every employee has his or her own unique set of strengths to bring to the table.

In this case, I would prioritize the high-potential flight risk performer first, with some major caveats.

The reason is simply this: performance drives results. A top performer is one who can potentially have an immediate and substantial effect on the organization’s growth.

That said, this does not mean loyalty is irrelevant–it most definitely is. Loyalty, however, can be cultivated and nurtured.

The strategic thought behind this is to sit down with the high performer and discuss their career path, hear their concerns, and find out how we can match their aspirations with the company’s aspirations.

If we can retain top performers while providing them with the right opportunities, the ROI will be tremendous.

On the other hand, a loyal average performer can add cultural value but not necessarily move the bottom line in terms of results. The business would then be missing out on growth opportunities.

What really matters, ultimately, is a balance between retention and performance strategies–because performance, though a possible game-changer, is transient, while loyalty can be nurtured and developed with a good strategy.

Alex Cornici
Writer, Cheap Places To Go

Assess Performance And Company Needs

Promoting an employee involves a mix of assessing their current performance, potential for growth, and overall impact on team dynamics.

If faced with choosing between a loyal, average performer and a high-performer who might leave the company, the decision isn’t just about their individual contributions.

The loyal employee’s consistent performance provides stability and can be crucial for maintaining a cohesive team environment. However, their average performance might limit the company’s growth potential, especially in roles that demand high innovation or technical skills.

On the other hand, a high-performing employee often drives significant improvements and results, potentially bringing more value to the company in the short term. Yet, the risk of them leaving could result in a disruptive gap, especially if they occupy a critical role.

This decision depends greatly on the specific needs and strategic goals of the company; for instance, if a business is navigating through a critical transformative phase, the high performer’s cutting-edge skills might be indispensable.

Ultimately, the choice could also reflect on the company’s culture and values, possibly influencing future recruitment and retention.

Carefully weighing these factors will guide a decision that supports not only immediate needs but also long-term stability and growth.

Aviad Faruz
CEO, FARUZO

Align Promotion With Company Goals

The decision to promote a loyal yet average performer over a high-performing but potential flight risk depends on the long-term strategic goals, team stability, and leadership needs of the organization.

While performance is critical, leadership roles require reliability, cultural fit, and commitment–qualities that an average but loyal performer may bring, while a high-performer at risk of leaving might not.

If the role is high-impact and requires immediate results, promoting the high performer with strong incentives and a clear career growth plan might be the best move to retain them and maximize short-term success.

However, if the role demands long-term team stability, mentorship, and cultural reinforcement, then promoting a steady, loyal employee could provide more lasting value, even if their individual output isn’t exceptional.

A strategic middle ground could be tailored retention efforts for the high performer, such as a stretch assignment or leadership training, while investing in skill development for the loyal employee.

Ultimately, promotions should be based on a combination of performance, leadership potential, and alignment with the company’s future goals–not just immediate output or tenure.

Michael Kazula
Director of Marketing, Olavivo

Assess Impact On Team Dynamics

Choosing between promoting a loyal but average performer and a high-performing employee at risk of leaving is complex.

Promoting loyalty fosters a positive culture and reduces turnover, enhancing team stability.

However, the potential loss of a high-performer could disrupt projects and knowledge flow.

Each option requires careful assessment of how they impact team dynamics and the company’s long-term objectives.

Rob Clegg
Senior SEO Manager, Exclaimer

Promote Based On Merit And Transparency

In any company, the most essential way to manage expectations is to create a culture that’s based on merit and transparency.

When someone is offered a promotion, it should be obvious to everyone why the person was chosen, which achievements and what skill set recommends them for the promotion.

Resentment happens when employees feel like they are owed a promotion based on tenure alone, which should not be the case.

If someone has not showcased any interest in expanding their responsibilities, leading the growth of the business, there is no reason they should be promoted.

This is what employees need to understand and where transparency can have such a huge impact, effectively communicating what a promotion requires.

It will automatically create a natural selection, where many employees will not want the added responsibility for the increased reward and will develop an appreciation of those who do.

Anna Blood
Founder & Managing Attorney, Blood Law PLLC

Prioritize Internal Promotions And Growth

When a company grows rapidly, I believe it’s important to prioritize promoting from within.

As a business leader, I want to reward and recognize my existing team for their hard work and leverage their knowledge and experience.

If multiple qualified individuals are interested in a promotion, consider factors such as their performance, potential for growth, and their long-term goals.

Transparent communication is key to ensuring that everyone feels valued and understood, even if they don’t get the promotion.

It’s also crucial to avoid overwhelming employees with excessive responsibilities.

If someone is promoted, ensure that their previous role is filled to maintain productivity and prevent burnout.

Kate O’Sullivan
Founding Partner & Executive Coach, CoachSelect

Reward High Performers Without Management

This is a common situation, and I often hear companies worrying about what to do when they have a high performer and no leadership position to promote them to.

However, companies are overlooking the reality that not everyone wants to be a people manager.

In fact, I hear it all the time– I want to progress in my career, but I don’t want to manage a team.

So a great solution is for companies to think of ways for high performers to expand their impact without leading a team. This could be through leading high-profile projects, giving them more autonomy on what work to pursue, or increasing the scope of their responsibility.

Another key consideration is that high performers want to be rewarded for their hard work, which means compensation has to be a part of the retention conversation. If the only way to reach a certain salary level is to become a people manager, companies will inevitably lose top talent.

Make sure that compensation is aligned to the incentives of achieving team and company goals.

If high performers know what their expectations are, are incentivized by fair and competitive compensation for their efforts, and are a part of open conversations about career progression, you have a recipe for keeping top employees retained and engaged.

Levi Hemingway
Co-Founder, City Storage By Nomad Capital

Prioritize Consistency And Team Stability

At City Storage USA, promoting a loyal yet average performer over a high-performing but potential flight risk would depend on the long-term impact on the business.

Just like in storage, where long-term occupancy and stability often outweigh short-term gains, we prioritize consistency, reliability, and growth potential when making leadership decisions.

One key consideration is cultural fit and team stability.

A loyal employee who embodies our values, supports the team, and is invested in the company’s mission may be a better long-term leader than someone who delivers top results but is disengaged or likely to leave.

Leadership is about more than just numbers–it’s about trust, collaboration, and the ability to motivate others, much like how a well-managed storage facility thrives on strong customer relationships rather than just maximizing unit rentals.

However, performance cannot be ignored.

If the high performer has the potential to stay with the right incentives, we would explore ways to retain them, such as offering professional development opportunities, customized incentives, or leadership training.

If they remain a flight risk despite these efforts, promoting a steady and dependable team member who is willing to grow into the role may ultimately be the smarter choice for long-term stability and business continuity.

The HR Spotlight team thanks these industry leaders for offering their expertise and experience and sharing these insights.

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The Art of Retention: Negotiating with a  Top Performer Considering Another Offer

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The Art of Retention: Negotiating with a Top Performer Considering Another Offer

The moment a top performer discloses a competitive job offer, a delicate negotiation begins. 

The outcome of this negotiation can have significant implications for the organization, impacting productivity, morale, and overall success. 

In this post, we introduce you to the art of retaining top talent in the face of competitive offers. 

We gathered insights from experienced HR and business leaders, asking them to share the urgent retention strategies they rely on for successful negotiations. 

Their responses offer a valuable perspective on how to approach these critical conversations, craft compelling counteroffers, and ultimately, convince your most valuable employees to stay.

Read on!

Dandan Zhu
Founder, CEO, DG Recruit

Understand Employee Motivation

Whenever counteroffer opportunities arise, the risks on both sides are significant.

Here are some factors to consider:

Why is the employee choosing to leave?: 

Besides the financial end of things which I’ll dive into shortly, THIS is the core issue to understand.

If the core issue of WHY the employee wants to leave is resolvable, a counteroffer endeavor would be worth exploring.Not only does the issue have to be resolvable, the solution needs to be SUSTAINABLE.

Many companies throw up a hail Mary to salvage the employee in the short term. THIS is why we have an industry average of 6-12 months of the employee quitting again.

To mitigate this risk, the employer has to have an honest discussion around their ability to resolve the employee’s RFL (reason for leaving) for longer periods of time.

Is it a money grab effort or a sincere financial adjustment?

Money matters and that’s a fact. Nobody goes to work for fun!

That said, is the financial ask reasonable per market rates or is the employee leveraging external factors to enrich themselves unreasonably and opportunistically?

How badly does the employer want to retain the departing employee?

If this person is a once-in-a-lifetime top performer, serious considerations need to be had because their departure could be detrimental to the wider team.

However, if the top performer possesses a terrible personality that is tolerated, how much should the employer fight to keep them on?

In Conclusion

Counteroffers, as much as people advise against them, happen in the real world – surprisingly more frequently than people think.

Handling them is an art. How you decide to proceed is either going to save you tens of thousands of dollars or COST you that amount (or more!).

Of course, replacing staff is never cheap – resources, both internal and external, along with losing effectiveness, getting behind on projects, opportunity cost, etc add up to a monstrous level quickly.

Often, counteroffers are a legitimate way to make the best out of a bad situation.

As attractive as that potentiality is, counteroffers could also fail within short order as employers find their staff leaving again in 6 months’ time in which they’ve now spent more money just to lose, yet again!

Facing both possibilities, both sides need to be as honest as possible about the issues they’re facing to reach a happy medium.

Otherwise, walking away, while painful in the short term, ultimately is the right decision.

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Tony Deblauwe
Global HR Leader

Focus on Long-Term Engagement

When a top performer discloses a competitive offer, the key is to approach the conversation strategically rather than reactively.

Retention isn’t just about counteroffers–it’s about understanding why they’re considering leaving in the first place and addressing their long-term engagement.

The first and most important step is to listen.

Too often, leaders assume money is the sole driver, but in many cases, it’s about career growth, leadership, work-life balance, or a combination of factors.

If compensation is the only issue, matching or exceeding an offer might work, but if deeper concerns exist, simply increasing pay won’t create lasting retention.

Once I understand their motivations, I focus on three core areas: career acceleration, compensation, and executive alignment.

If career growth is their main concern, I explore ways to fast-track development opportunities, such as placing them on high-visibility projects, expanding their scope, or providing direct access to senior leadership.

High performers stay where they see a compelling future, and organizations that proactively create those pathways are far more likely to retain their best talent.

If the offer is significantly higher in compensation, I look beyond base salary to consider equity, retention bonuses, or performance-based incentives.

While competitive pay matters, top performers also want to feel valued in ways beyond their paycheck.

Beyond money and promotions, engagement often comes down to whether an employee feels truly seen and valued by leadership.

A direct conversation with an executive about their impact and future within the company can make a significant difference.

High performers want to know their work is recognized at the highest level, and sometimes, meaningful recognition and influence matter more than a salary increase.

Ultimately, the goal isn’t just to win this negotiation–it’s to ensure they don’t feel the need to explore external offers again in six months.

If the gap between what they want and what the company can realistically offer is too wide, a respectful and well-supported transition is better than a desperate counteroffer.

Real retention strategies start long before a competitor comes knocking.

When companies proactively create an environment where top talent sees a clear, compelling future, retention conversations become far less frequent.

Mohammed Kamal
Business Development Manager, Olavivo

Tailor Offers to Priorities

When a top performer receives a competitive job offer, immediate retention strategies are vital for negotiation.

Begin by understanding their motivations, such as salary, career growth, work-life balance, or company culture.

For example, a tech firm retained a key software engineer by having an open dialog about their reasons for considering the new offer, ultimately leading to a tailored counter-offer that addressed their priorities.

Justin Abrams
Founder & CEO, Aryo Consulting Group

Address Needs Quickly

It’s a sign you need to act fast. You don’t know exactly what’s driving their decision, but you do know that if you don’t address it, you risk losing a key team member.

Start by having an open conversation to find out if it’s about salary, career growth, or something else.

If it’s about money, consider matching or improving the offer, and if it’s about career opportunities, show them how they can grow within your company.

It’s not just about salary; think about what your company offers beyond pay, like flexibility or career advancement. Highlight these benefits to show that staying with you offers more than just a paycheck.

Ultimately, moving quickly and offering real value can make the difference between retaining or losing your top performer.

If you can address their needs, they’ll likely stay. But if not, you’ll have valuable insights to improve your future retention strategies.

Kerri Roberts
Founder & CEO, Salt & Light Advisors

Analyze Employee Data

Context is key in this conversation.

Has there been frustration in the past shared by this employee? Did you know they were potentially looking for another role?

Is there conflict between the employee and a colleague? Did they ask for increased responsibilities or an increase in pay and were denied?

Whether this is out of the blue, or there was a known reason they were searching for another role, I would work with your HR team (or the person in charge of employee compensation to learn the following):

– What was the employee hire date (what is their tenure)?

– What pay changes have occurred during their tenure

– What did the last performance review show?

– Where are they paid in the position pay band (10th percentile, 25th, median, 75th, 90th)?

– If they are a top performer and there is room for pay growth, how much?

– What is your philosophy on one-time bonus payouts versus base pay increases?

Ideally, if they are a performer and a cultural fit, we work to salvage them.

However, don’t waste the chaos.

While it’s painful to replace an employee, when they share they have another offer, it’s a great time to breathe and ask yourself – could we draw a better card from the deck?

We don’t have to counteroffer everyone. It’s not always the right choice for the organization.

Sometimes we just wish them well. But, if they ARE a great performer and they DO shine in the culture, come prepared with the answers to my questions above, listen to their reasoning, and see what you can do to make it work.

Aviad Faruz
CEO, FARUZO

Offer Tailored Incentives

If a top performer discloses a competitive job offer from a competitor, my urgent retention strategy would focus on understanding their motivations, offering tailored incentives, and reinforcing long-term career value.

Instead of immediately countering with money, I would start with a one-on-one conversation to understand what’s driving their decision–is it compensation, career growth, work-life balance, or leadership concerns?

Once I identify the key motivators, I would take a customized approach to retention.

If compensation is the main factor, a competitive counteroffer combined with performance-based incentives (such as bonuses or stock options) could reinforce their financial future.

However, if the issue is career stagnation, I’d outline a clear growth plan with leadership opportunities, mentorship, or skill development.

If work-life balance is the concern, flexibility in schedule or remote work options could make a difference.

Beyond immediate retention, I’d reinforce their long-term value within the company, showing how their contributions impact our success and ensuring they feel recognized and challenged.

I’d also assess if the broader team’s retention risks need addressing, turning this into a learning opportunity.

The key to successful negotiation isn’t just matching the competitor’s offer–it’s making the employee feel like their best opportunities still exist within the company.

Susan Snipes
Head of People, Remote People

Discuss Growth Opportunities

If my top performer were considering a competitive job offer, I would find out what their main motivating factor was for considering the move.

If the main concern was career advancement, I would discuss possible career growth opportunities within my firm.

I would be open to creative solutions like offering a title change and more interesting projects. Additional training opportunities could also be provided.

If my top employee’s main concern was compensation or benefits-related, I would evaluate what changes could be made to my total rewards strategy. For example, maybe I could offer a retention bonus.

As long as I know the main driving factor behind them considering leaving, I can work with them and think creatively to come up with a retention solution.

Michael Kazula
Director of Marketing, Olavivo

Assess Affiliate Motivations

To retain top-performing affiliates facing competitive job offers, it’s crucial to understand their motivations through one-on-one assessments.

During these meetings, discuss their career goals, what they value in your network, and the appealing aspects of the new offer.

This personalized approach can help negotiate effectively and ensure affiliates feel valued and motivated to stay within your network.

Ambrosio Arizu
Co-Founder & Managing Partner, Argoz Consultants

Offer Various Incentives

To retain a key employee who has received an offer from a competitor, the urgent strategies I would implement are:

Recognition and appreciation: Show them how crucial they are to the team.

Example: “Your work has been essential to the success of project X, and without you, we wouldn’t have achieved these results.”

Competitive offer: Evaluate and improve their compensation package, including salary, bonuses, and benefits.

Example: “We are willing to increase your salary and offer you more benefits to match what they are offering.”

Professional development: Offer growth opportunities and new challenges within the company.

Example: “We would propose you lead the new project Y, which will be a great opportunity for your career.”

Flexibility and well-being: Offer improvements in work-life balance.

Example: “We can offer you more flexibility in hours and remote work so you can enjoy more time with your family.”

These actions demonstrate a genuine commitment to their development and well-being.

Alex Cornici
Writer, Cheap Places To Go

Reassess Employee Value

When faced with the dilemma of a top performer considering a competitive job offer, the priority shifts swiftly to reassessing and readjusting the value you’re providing them.

It’s essential to engage in a candid and constructive conversation to understand their professional aspirations and any possible dissatisfaction they might be experiencing.

During this discussion, highlighting their invaluable contribution to the team and forecasting their potential growth within the company can rekindle their alignment with your organization’s vision.

An effective retention strategy would include a competitive counteroffer that addresses not only monetary compensation but also opportunities for career progression, additional responsibilities, or flexibility, which might align better with their current life situation.

It can also be useful to personalize benefits, such as professional development resources, enhanced work-life balance options, or even equity stakes, depending on what resonates most with your employee.

Often, employees are looking for signals that the company values their contributions and is actively investing in their future.

In the end, demonstrating a clear path of growth and fulfillment within the company can be a powerful motivator for an employee to stay and grow with the team.

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